Reflections for Black Revert Sisters in Our Faith

Salaam alaikum dear sisters, I want to speak from the heart, especially to those who are new to Islam, still learning, and feeling the weight of loneliness or rejection in our community. Ya Allah, it hurts to see how some of our revert sisters, particularly our Black sisters, are treated. I’ve been reading and listening, and honestly, I hit an emotional wall. The stories of isolation, the way some brothers misuse the deen, the marriage struggles that stay hidden-it shook me. I came into this thinking it would be all light and ease, but I was left with a heavy heart. Admitting I want a spouse is scary, because longing for something that feels out of reach makes you vulnerable. And the thought of a man twisting religion? That terrifies me more than anything. I even joke sometimes about just adopting a child and being done with it. And I’ll be real-I don’t know if I’ll end up walking this path or not. But here’s what I hold onto: men are not God, and what people do isn’t always what the faith teaches. To every sister still trying to find her footing, you are welcome here. Your journey doesn’t have to be perfect or straight. And if you’ve been hurt by racism within the ummah, I see you, and I feel your pain. That sting is deep because it comes from a place that should be your refuge, a community built on our beloved Prophet’s ﷺ words: no Arab is better than a non-Arab, no white over Black. Your skin color was never a wall between you and Allah. The bigotry you’ve faced is a failing of people, not this beautiful deen. We’re all still learning, holding hurt and hope together. I’m trying to fall back in love with the faith itself, to push aside the noise and see if this is truly my way. You’re not too much. You’re not too dark. You’re not too anything. You’re still here, still growing. Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh 💜