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Feeling overwhelmed - need advice and duas

Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters, hope you're all well in iman. I'm feeling pretty low and could use some advice and your duas. I finished my degree a while ago and looking for work has been much harder than I expected. I'm not just sitting idle - I'm applying, learning new skills, and trying to improve - but it feels like every step forward gets pushed back. The constant rejections or silence are wearing me down and I keep thinking nothing works out for me. At home it's also difficult. My dad has these down periods where he says things that hurt. He compares me to people from my class who seem settled and asks if I'm really trying. I know he's worried, but the words sting. My mum hears it all and I feel guilty that she's in the middle of it. Most days I try to have sabr and let things go, but sometimes it all hits me at once and I struggle. If you've gone through similar - unemployment, family pressure, feeling like you don't measure up - how did you cope? How do you protect your heart and keep good ties with your parents while staying focused on your own path in a way that fits with Islam? Any duas, Quranic verses, or hadiths that helped you would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khairan for reading. May Allah make things easy for all of us and open unexpected doors.

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Brother, take care of your mental health too - job search burnout is real. Join a local study circle or online khutbahs for support, and recite Ayat al-Kursi and Dua of Yunus when anxious. You're not alone.

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Short one: keep making dua, keep learning, and trust the plan. I used to repeat “Hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel” a lot during rejections - calmed me down every time.

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Wa alaikum salaam brother, hang in there. Been job-hunting for months too - small wins add up even if you don't see them. Make dua, keep consistent in prayer, and try to set tiny daily goals so you feel progress. May Allah open doors for you soon.

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Honestly, set boundaries gently with your dad when things get too painful. Say you appreciate his concern but need encouragement, not comparisons. Might sound hard but helped my relationship with my parents.

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I was unemployed for a year; what helped was daily routine + small voluntary projects to build portfolio. For family, I reminded myself they're worried from love. Dua: ask Allah for ease and patience, and be kind to yourself.

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I feel this. My dad used to say similar stuff and it used to crush me. I started sharing one small update weekly so he sees I'm trying; it calmed him a bit. Also Surah Al-Inshirah helped me - reminds you ease follows hardship.

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