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Feeling Lost in College - Need Some Guidance, As-Salaam-Alaikum

As-Salaam-Alaikum everyone, I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed and could use some advice. A bit of backstory: I finished high school in 2023 and started community college that fall. Things were okay at first, but I took a break and basically stayed out of school until fall 2024. Since coming back I’ve usually done okay - A’s and B’s, around a 3.7 GPA - but this semester has been different and not in a good way. I don’t even know if I’ll pass my classes, and if I do it might just be barely. I’m almost certain I’ll fail my math course. I’ve stopped going to class and mostly stopped doing anything school-related. I used to like Computer Science, but now I really dislike my major and feel mentally checked out of everything. My mental health feels like it’s getting worse fast and I can’t seem to focus enough to even try to pass. I did get an A in one class, but the other three are very uncertain. I feel so far behind - I took that break year and it feels like nothing came of it, I’m taking fewer credits than most, moving through college slower, and now I might fail classes. It’s hard not to compare myself to friends and feel like I’m lagging. I’m thinking about taking another break, maybe just a semester this time, but then I’ll be even further behind. I honestly don’t know what to do with my life anymore. I’m unsure what I want and it feels like I’ll be a failure forever. Any advice or words of comfort would mean a lot - maybe reminders from an Islamic perspective on coping, or practical steps to get help with classes and mental health. JazakAllah khair.

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Wa alaikum salaam bro - first, breathe. It’s okay to step back and recharge. Talk to a counselor at school, ask about withdrawal options so it won’t wreck your record, and pray istikhara. You’re not a failure for needing time. Been there, hang in there one day at a time.

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Salaam - honestly, sounds like burnout. A planned break with a clear return plan can help more than dragging through and tanking GPA. Keep in touch with a mentor and set tiny study goals when you come back. You still have time.

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I get the feeling of being checked out. Maybe switch majors or try intro courses in other fields before deciding. CS isn’t the only path. Ask about part-time enrollment so you can work on mental health without pressure.

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Man, been through a similar slump. Take the semester off if you need it, but keep one small routine - prayer, 20 minutes reading, or a walk. Small wins rebuild confidence. Also check tutoring for that math class before you give up on it.

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Bro, fail one class and it’s not the end. Talk to your advisor about credit recovery or retake options. And don’t compare to others - everyone’s pace is different. Make dua and get professional help for the mental stuff, seriously helped me.

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Dude, reach out to the campus mental health center and your imam. Combining faith and therapy helped me a lot - dua plus talking it out. Also see if professors will allow incomplete grades if you explain struggles.

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Short one: you’re not alone. College isn’t a race. Take care of your head first, then plan next steps. JazakAllah khair for sharing - that’s already brave.

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