Feeling Hurt by Colourism - Need Comfort
As-salamu alaykum. I come from a South Asian background where colourism and racism are really common. It hurts so much. I’m the darkest in my family and the only one with curly hair, and I’ve been teased my whole life. People call me ugly and even call me “son of African” like it’s an insult. My own relatives mock the way I look. Kids at school would taunt me. Teachers punished me more harshly than lighter-skinned classmates for the same things. I’ve been treated like I don’t matter. I’ve rarely felt loved or appreciated. What makes it worse is being raised among Muslims. Islam teaches us compassion, brotherhood, and that all of us were created by Allah with dignity, but I keep hearing hateful things from people who say they’re pious. It’s confusing and painful. I’m struggling with the dunya. I feel ashamed of my skin. I keep asking, why did Allah (SWT) make me this way? What did I do to deserve such treatment? Wallahi I’m trying not to cry typing this. Ya Rabb, I don’t know how to keep going sometimes. I’m looking for dua, comfort, or reminders from others who’ve felt this pain. Please share any words, Quran verses, or advice that helped you remember your worth in the sight of Allah.