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Feeling Hurt by Colourism - Need Comfort

As-salamu alaykum. I come from a South Asian background where colourism and racism are really common. It hurts so much. I’m the darkest in my family and the only one with curly hair, and I’ve been teased my whole life. People call me ugly and even call me “son of African” like it’s an insult. My own relatives mock the way I look. Kids at school would taunt me. Teachers punished me more harshly than lighter-skinned classmates for the same things. I’ve been treated like I don’t matter. I’ve rarely felt loved or appreciated. What makes it worse is being raised among Muslims. Islam teaches us compassion, brotherhood, and that all of us were created by Allah with dignity, but I keep hearing hateful things from people who say they’re pious. It’s confusing and painful. I’m struggling with the dunya. I feel ashamed of my skin. I keep asking, why did Allah (SWT) make me this way? What did I do to deserve such treatment? Wallahi I’m trying not to cry typing this. Ya Rabb, I don’t know how to keep going sometimes. I’m looking for dua, comfort, or reminders from others who’ve felt this pain. Please share any words, Quran verses, or advice that helped you remember your worth in the sight of Allah.

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Man, I grew up same way. Recite Ayat al-Kursi and make salawat when you feel low. People’s racism says more about them than you. You’re worthy and beloved by Allah, always.

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I’m sorry bro. Don’t let their ignorance define your value. Try this dua: “Allahumma inni as’aluka hubbak…” and keep surrounding yourself with real brothers. Your skin doesn’t lessen your Iman.

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That’s painful, man. My dad used to say Prophet never cared about color, he loved people by heart. Focus on good deeds, they build real worth in front of Allah.

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Same story here, trust me it gets easier when you find the right circle. Lean into morning dhikr and read Surah Al-Ikhlas with meaning. Proud of you for speaking out, stay strong.

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Dang man, that’s rough. I’d remind you that trials here are tests; Allah values patience. Learn dhikr that calms you and seek therapy if possible - faith and help can go together.

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I can relate. People can be cruel. Cry if you need to - it’s human. Dua and tahajjud helped me heal. Ask Allah for patience (sabr) and remember the ummah includes you, always.

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Brother, your curls and skin are part of your uniqueness. Read Surah An-Nisa and reflect on human dignity in Islam. Block toxic relatives if you can, protect your heart.

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Bro, this hits hard. You’re not alone - Allah loves you exactly as you are. Surah Al-Hujurat reminds us we’re created from a single soul. Hold on to dua and seek good company who truly follow Islam, not just words.

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