Feeling a bit confused about some things...

Assalamu alaikum everyone. I was reading some hadiths and Quranic verses and honestly, I’m feeling kinda down about it. Like, I came across this saying about how only a couple of women reached perfection, but men can be perfect too. It kinda made me feel less, you know? And then there’s the part about being good to women because they’re like captives. Why would I be a captive to my husband? That doesn’t sit right. Also, the verse that says men are in charge because of what Allah gave them and what they provide. Does that mean they’re automatically smarter or better at handling things than me? I try so hard to understand, but sometimes it feels like the rules assume I’m less mature or capable, even though I know I’m not a child and I can think for myself. It gets tough when I feel like I have to go along with things even when I’m uncomfortable, especially in private moments. Does Allah not care about how I feel or my well-being? Why should I have to do something against my will and get hurt? It’s like my side doesn’t matter. I keep reading more, and I can’t shake this feeling that Islam doesn’t really get what women are capable of, and it just gives any controlling guy an excuse to act on his insecurities. Some rules might make sense if a sister isn’t mature, but why am I always assumed to be less? I try my best to make sense of it all, but it’s hard when it seems like the religion gives men every right to see us as less from its own point of view. Just needed to vent a bit.