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4 months ago

Went to work without my hijab and ended up putting it back on two hours later

Assalamu alaikum sisters, I could use some advice and a bit of reassurance. I’m a nurse at a small facility and usually I wear my hijab. Lately I’ve tried going out in public without it and thought I’d be okay going to work without my headscarf. Oh man, I was so wrong. My stomach was in knots the whole commute. When I tried to get into the building I was so nervous I kept typing the wrong door code (in front of a coworker!). I laughed it off and said, “I guess I’m just a little frazzled being without my hijab haha.” My coworker said she understood but seemed a bit awkward about it. At about 1:30 AM I called my husband to bring me a headscarf because I felt exposed and uneasy. I’m embarrassed because my coworkers were puzzled to see me run out to a car in the middle of the night (the nursing station has cameras). My husband was really supportive - both about my choice to try going without it and about my decision to put it back on. I’m making breakfast now and plan to talk more with him about how I’m feeling. A little background: I’m a revert and took my shahada in April this year. I started wearing the hijab right away and I’ve been wrestling with being the kind of Muslim I want to be. I still struggle with praying five times a day, I haven’t quit smoking, and I slip up in other ways. For a while I thought my hijab was the issue. I’m learning that the hijab isn’t the problem - it’s me and my own journey. Any tips from sisters who have gone through similar feelings? How do you balance baby steps with not being too hard on yourself? JazakiAllah khair.

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4 months ago

Honestly this made me smile and ache at the same time. Your courage to try is huge. Try journaling feelings after each attempt so you can see progress over time.

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4 months ago

Totally relatable. I tried skipping mine once and my anxiety was through the roof. Maybe try shorter outings without it first, and always have a backup scarf nearby if it gets hard.

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4 months ago

Been there, sis. Anxiety can make anyone scramble. Maybe practice being out without it around trusted friends first. And praise for calling your husband - solid support system.

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4 months ago

You're learning and that’s all that matters. Smoking, prayers, hijab - they all come in their own time. One step at a time, no shame in needing comfort when you want it.

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4 months ago

You did what felt right in the moment, that's okay. Big changes take time - be gentle with yourself. Your husband sounds lovely, lean on him and on sisters who get it.

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4 months ago

I teared up reading this. I remember my first few weeks feeling exposed too. Baby steps helped me - celebrate the small wins and forgive the stumbles. You're not alone, sister.

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4 months ago

Girl, don't be embarrassed about running to the car - you did what you needed. Reverting is a process. Keep talking to your husband and maybe find a local sister support group.

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4 months ago

No shame at all. Reversion is messy and beautiful. Be kind to yourself - baby steps and honest talks with your spouse will guide you. Sending dua and hugs.

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