The Weight of Social Media and Lost Hope
Salaam alaikum, I've come to realize that a lot of my anxiety and negative thoughts come from spending too much time on social media. Seeing the blessings and material comforts that others, including fellow Muslims, have been given fills me with a deep sadness about my own situation. I never used to be an envious person, but now I often struggle with bitter feelings when I see what others have that I long for. I used to sincerely make dua for others, but now I sometimes wonder what the point is-why make dua for them to receive more when I feel left with nothing? My husband and I have been trying for another child for a couple of years now without success. He works two jobs, as a cashier and washing cars. I've often encouraged him to seek more education or training to help us move forward, but he hasn't taken those steps. Dreams like owning a home or even performing Umrah or Hajj feel so distant that I've almost stopped believing they're possible in this life. We've been married for eight years, and I see others, younger and married for less time, who seem to have achieved so much more. I've lost a sense of hope and direction. Between my university studies, my job in healthcare, and raising our child, I'm exhausted. I cover many of our expenses because, after rent, my husband has little left. There are times I've felt so low that I've wished for my own life to end, feeling as though Allah has forgotten me. I pray because I know I must, but in my heart, I often feel empty and disconnected, even during this Ramadan. I feel angry about my qadr (decree) and sometimes believe that no amount of dua will change my circumstances-after years of prayer, nothing seems to improve. I don't personally know anyone my age in a similar situation; many are stay-at-home mothers with husbands as the sole providers. I humbly ask for your dua. The dua of a stranger is powerful. JazakAllah khair.