The quiet, tiring journey of being the only revert Muslim in my family and neighborhood
As-salamu alaykum. I wanted to share something that’s been weighing on me: being a revert to Islam and feeling completely alone in my faith-the only Muslim in my home and in my nearby circle. I love Islam and it gives me peace, but the ongoing isolation is emotionally exhausting. Stuck between two places It often feels like I’m living between two worlds and can’t fully belong to either. The loneliness shows up in these small but constant ways: • Family distance: I don’t have anyone at home to celebrate the joy of learning a new surah or the calm after salah. Big times like Eid or Ramadan are very quiet, and I often spend them by myself while seeing other families celebrate. • No local community: There’s no one nearby to ask simple practice questions or to share a heartfelt “Alhamdulillah” with. I miss the immediate support that many born Muslims have. • Explaining or hiding: I’m always deciding what to share and what to keep private. Things like finding a place to pray or ensuring food is halal take extra effort and sometimes awkward explanations or judgment. • Identity tension: Sometimes I feel like I’ve lost parts of my family or cultural identity because my faith asks me to change habits, yet I haven’t found a new, supportive Muslim circle to belong to. Longing for connection and guidance I know I’m not the first person to feel this, but on tough days the loneliness gets heavy. If you’re a revert who went through this early on, I’d love to hear: 1. How did you cope with deep loneliness, especially during holidays or when family members were insensitive? 2. How did you find a supportive Muslim community (online or in person) when your local area didn’t have much? 3. What practical steps kept you motivated in your faith when you had no one to pray or learn with? Jazakum Allahu Khairan for reading. I pray Allah makes this path easy for all of us who feel isolated and guides us to supportive brothers and sisters.