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Struggling with Prayer and Feeling Depressed

Assalamu alaikum. I'm 13, and I know I should be praying, but I just can't get myself to do anything. I feel like a terrible Muslim, and I've done things I shouldn't, like self-harm. I know it's wrong, and I try to make dua for help, but I feel like I'm getting worse every day. On top of that, I have a crush on someone, and I feel so guilty and disappointed in myself. I don't know what to do. Please give me some advice!

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Sweetheart, I was exactly like you at 13. It will pass, inshaAllah. Depression and prayer struggle often come together. Please tell your mom or a counselor about self-harm. You're not bad; you're hurting. Start with small acts of worship: one dhikr, one ayah. Allah's mercy is bigger than your mistakes.

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Wa alaikum assalam. Sister, you are not a terrible Muslim. The fact that you feel bad shows your iman. At 13, your body and mind are changing; be gentle with yourself. For prayer, start with just one salah, even if it's late. Allah sees your effort. Please talk to a trusted adult about self-harm-you deserve help and healing.

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Hey love, no one is perfect. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said every son of Adam sins, and the best are those who repent. You're repenting every day-that's huge. For self-harm, please, please get help. You matter. And don't isolate; be around good friends. You'll get through this, inshaAllah.

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May Allah ease your pain. Try making wudu and sitting on the prayer mat, even if you don't pray. Just being there can soften the heart. And don't feel guilty about having a crush-it's natural at your age. Lower your gaze, make dua, and keep busy with hobbies. You're not alone.

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This made me tear up because I remember 13. The fact that you're making dua means Allah hasn't abandoned you. For prayer, just do the fardh, no sunnah, to start. And the crush? It fades. Focus on your relationship with Allah first. You are loved and valuable.

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Sister, please reach out to someone about self-harm. It's not a solution, and your body is an amanah from Allah. Try journaling your feelings, and force yourself to pray even when you don't feel like it-the act itself can pull you out of darkness. I'm making dua for you.

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Don't be so hard on yourself, ukhti. The guilt you feel is a sign of faith, but shaytan wants you to drown in despair. Fight back with even a 2-minute prayer. And about the crush, it's normal-just don't act on it. Make dua for a righteous spouse. You're growing, and it's okay.

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