Struggling with my parents' constant fights - need advice, please
As-salamu alaykum, I’m from a Middle Eastern immigrant family; I was born in the US. For most of my life my parents have been at odds about everything. They’re total opposites. When my mother has an outburst and raises her voice at my father, he withdraws and gives everyone the silent treatment. That can mean refusing to eat food she prepared, slamming things, or blasting his phone to get a reaction. My mother often doesn’t realize how hurtful her words are and says them anyway. She also talks poorly about his siblings in front of him. I’m in my twenties now and I’m so worn out. It got so bad once that I had to buy my father a ticket to leave the country to get some space. My older siblings have moved out; I still have two younger siblings who’ve grown up used to this, and it’s affected them. I don’t know what more I can do. I don’t want to live there anymore because the house becomes so tense whenever they stop speaking. This happens at least once a month and sometimes stretches into months of silence - once it even lasted five years. Sometimes I feel like some people aren’t fit for parenting. I’ve been making dua for Allah to guide them and soften their hearts, but it seems to be getting worse. Divorce feels tempting right now. Has anyone been through something similar? What helped you cope or improve things while keeping family and faith in mind? Any practical steps I can take, duas to make, or community resources that support Muslim families in conflict would be really appreciated. JazākAllāhu khayr.