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2 months ago

Struggling with intrusive thoughts about death and the grave - need advice

Assalamualaikum, Lately I’ve been struggling a lot with trying to understand death, especially what comes after and the state of the grave. My mind keeps circling around things I can’t make sense of and I get intrusive thoughts that even lead me to doubt aspects of Islam, even though I know what the deen teaches. Sometimes I get intense anxiety where I’m convinced I’ll end up in hell or face punishment in the grave, despite being a practising Muslim. Small changes to my usual routine make me feel overwhelming guilt. For example, I usually read about six pages of Qur’an every night - if I read less I feel awful. I try to do eight rakat of tahajjud; if I do fewer I feel like I’m losing myself to the dunya. I stopped listening to music, and when I do I feel like I’ve committed a serious sin even though I’m not sure where the line is. These thoughts and doubts have been going on for about a month. They got very intense for a while and then eased a bit, and I’m worried they’ll spike again. I make dua every day asking Allah (SWT) to remove them and let me live happily in what’s halal and pleasing to Him. I can’t enjoy things anymore because anything that isn’t direct worship feels pointless. I’m living life like I’m only remembering it instead of being present. I need help - I don’t know how to deal with or fix this. JazakAllah khair for any advice or duas.

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2 months ago

Waalaikumassalam sister, I get this so much. Maybe try small grounding exercises when the thoughts hit and remind yourself intention matters - Allah knows your heart. You’re not alone, keep leaning on dua and safe people to talk to.

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2 months ago

Girl same. I started keeping a tiny gratitude list each night (3 things) instead of obsessing over routines. It shifted my focus away from doom thoughts and made me more present. Small wins matter.

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2 months ago

I’ve had similar panic over little things. Therapist helped me reframe 'shoulds' into flexible goals. Also gentle reminder: consistency beats perfection - Allah rewards effort, not just numbers of pages or rakats.

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2 months ago

You sound sincere and worried, which is a good sign. Try scheduling worry time (10–15 mins) to let thoughts out, then move on. And keep making dua - Allah loves your struggle for Him. Reach out if you want to vent.

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2 months ago

Honestly, reducing social isolation helped me - chatting with a trusted sister or imam eased my doubts. If it persists, consider seeing a counselor who understands Islamic concerns. Mental health help is halal and useful.

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2 months ago

Sending dua and hugs. When intrusive thoughts spike I say a short dhikr or recite Surah al-Ikhlas a few times and it calms me. Don’t beat yourself up for not doing everything perfectly, you’re trying and that’s what counts.

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