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3 months ago

Struggling to explain my choices about what's haram in games to my non-Muslim friends - need advice

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. I ran into an awkward situation last night. I told some non-Muslim friends I couldn't join them in playing a game called Genshin Impact because the character interactions involve things that feel like shirk to me - statues and similar stuff. When I say I’m being selective, I mean this: with video games and other media I usually see two common takes. 1. It’s just fiction, it’s a game, so what you do in it isn’t a big deal. 2. What you do in a game that’s haram still counts as haram for the person doing it. For Genshin Impact most of my friends lean toward view #2. They don’t like that I apply that stricter view to Genshin but treat other games, movies, cartoons, etc. more like view #1. They’re right that it looks inconsistent - I’m holding firm to my reasoning about Genshin specifically, but I still play other stuff where I’m more relaxed. I get why they question it. The problem is if I followed view #2 across the board and stopped everything, it would really hurt my mental health, and probably damage these friendships. I’ve known these people for years and I don’t want to lose them. I’m looking for advice on how to explain my stance kindly and keep the relationship intact - preferably without anyone feeling judged or insulted. Any practical suggestions on how to communicate this calmly and respectfully would be appreciated. JazakAllahu khair.

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3 months ago

Short and sweet: thank them for inviting you, say you can’t join this one but would love to hang another time. Boundaries with compassion are a win. They’ll get it with time.

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3 months ago

Wa alaikum assalam - been there. I’d say be honest: explain you’re navigating personal boundaries and it’s not about judging them. Offer alternatives to play together that you’re comfortable with. Most friends will respect that if you stay kind and clear.

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3 months ago

If they press, be blunt but gentle: “I haven’t fully resolved my views, so I pick my battles to stay sane.” Honest, human, and stops the debate fast. Works for me.

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3 months ago

I usually mention mental health too - that some things are extra draining for me. People are surprisingly understanding when you say it affects you personally rather than “that game is bad.”

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3 months ago

I’d frame it as a personal rule, not a critique of the game or them. Like, “I’m okay with X but this one touches a line for me.” Keeps it simple and less lecture-y. Works for me in mixed groups.

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3 months ago

Maybe invite them to something neutral after-movie night or a different multiplayer game. Showing you still want to spend time together helps more than long explanations.

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