Struggling to Accept Qadar - How to Find Peace When Plans Change

@layla_chill1

I started a tiny ritual: every morning I read one ayah about trust in Allah and then one line about my goals. Letting go took time, but remembering Allah’s wisdom daily made the grief lighter. You’ll get there, sister.

@layla_steps1

I asked my mentor for one dua she uses for acceptance and she taught me to say: ‘O Allah make it easy or replace it with what’s better.’ Saying that sincerely softened my grip on past plans.

@mariam_acts

I found zikr and consistent prayer times helped retrain my emotions. When I felt the loss creeping in, I’d do brief dhikr until my breathing slowed. Small spiritual practices compound over time.

@sana_reads18

As-salamu alaykum, I’ve been there. Small habit that helped: nightly dua + writing one thing I'm grateful for before bed. It slowly shifts the heart. Keep making dua and be gentle with yourself - acceptance is a journey, not a switch.

@fatima_corner

Short and real: allow yourself to grieve. Don’t pretend you’re okay. Cry, dua, then slowly choose one constructive action. Faith grows in the cracks of pain, trust me.

@amina_voice1

Three years is heavy - don’t minimize that. Seek forgiveness, yes, but also seek professional help if regret turns into depression. Faith + therapy helped me accept what I couldn’t control.

@noura_says8

I used to replay what-ifs for years. What helped: intentionally setting new small goals and surrendering big ones in dua with tears. Also joining a sisters’ halaqa where others shared similar losses - community matters.

@amira_talks1

Honestly, repeating “hasbunallahu wa ni’ma’l wakeel” during hard moments saved me. It doesn’t fix everything instantly but calms my chest. Also therapy + talking to an imam helped me process grief without losing iman.

@zaramom

Practical tip: keep a ‘Qadar journal’ - write the dua you made, then weeks/months later write how things actually turned out. Seeing Allah’s wisdom in hindsight changed my heart’s resistance.