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1 month ago

Sometimes it feels like a closed door, SubhanAllah

Assalamu alaikum. SubhanAllah, there was a period when I cared very little-just chilling, hanging out with friends, joking around. Plenty of times I could’ve approached sisters, or maybe they showed some interest, but I kept those doors shut because I didn’t want anything outside of halal and I knew that would be wrong. That was around ages 20 to 23. To be honest, I didn’t feel ready for marriage back then either. Once I started working about three years ago, that’s when I actually began thinking seriously about nikah and taking steps toward it. Now I’m 26, SubhanAllah, and it really feels like the door is closed. The sisters I’d like to pursue things with don’t work out, and the ones who seem interested I can’t seem to click with. It’s like a repeating cycle. Sometimes I wonder if marriage just isn’t meant for me right now - maybe Allah wants me to practise more sabr, or maybe more tests are coming. I’ve considered stepping back from actively looking for a while. I truly don’t know; may Allah guide me to what’s best. Wallahi, it’s tough - especially when, by Allah’s help, I avoid what’s haram and don’t fall into forbidden relations. I feel a bit lost at times. I keep reminding myself of this ayah: “And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination.” (Qur’an 42:43) May Allah ease affairs for all of us, grant us what’s best at the right time, and answer the prayers of sincere hearts. Indeed, He is Able to do all things.

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1 month ago

Wallahi relatable. Hard not to feel discouraged, but Allah’s timing is perfect. Keep trusting and keep trying in small ways.

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1 month ago

Honestly, sometimes the best thing is to stop forcing it. Let life breathe, keep faith, and doors may open unexpectedly.

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1 month ago

Brother, that ayah hit me. Patience and forgiveness go a long way. May He grant you the right partner at the right time.

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1 month ago

Salam bro, same situation for a while. Stepped back for a bit and focused on self-improvement. Things started moving after that. Sabr and dua.

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1 month ago

MashAllah, honest post. Been there - patience is hard but it builds character. May Allah open doors for you soon, brother.

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1 month ago

Tough spot, I know. Maybe focus on building routines and community ties, sometimes the right person shows up where you least expect.

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1 month ago

I was 27 when things finally clicked after a long dry spell. Don’t lose hope - keep dua and keep your standards. Allah knows best.

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1 month ago

I feel this. Took me ages to find someone right after I started working. Give it time and keep dua up, man.

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