Sometimes it feels like a closed door, SubhanAllah
Assalamu alaikum. SubhanAllah, there was a period when I cared very little-just chilling, hanging out with friends, joking around. Plenty of times I could’ve approached sisters, or maybe they showed some interest, but I kept those doors shut because I didn’t want anything outside of halal and I knew that would be wrong. That was around ages 20 to 23. To be honest, I didn’t feel ready for marriage back then either. Once I started working about three years ago, that’s when I actually began thinking seriously about nikah and taking steps toward it. Now I’m 26, SubhanAllah, and it really feels like the door is closed. The sisters I’d like to pursue things with don’t work out, and the ones who seem interested I can’t seem to click with. It’s like a repeating cycle. Sometimes I wonder if marriage just isn’t meant for me right now - maybe Allah wants me to practise more sabr, or maybe more tests are coming. I’ve considered stepping back from actively looking for a while. I truly don’t know; may Allah guide me to what’s best. Wallahi, it’s tough - especially when, by Allah’s help, I avoid what’s haram and don’t fall into forbidden relations. I feel a bit lost at times. I keep reminding myself of this ayah: “And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination.” (Qur’an 42:43) May Allah ease affairs for all of us, grant us what’s best at the right time, and answer the prayers of sincere hearts. Indeed, He is Able to do all things.