Seeking Guidance on Navigating Wali Challenges and Halal Communication in Marriage

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh, I am a 21-year-old sister from the West Bank, facing difficulties with my strict and conservative family, especially my father. Marriage seems like my only way to move forward, but my father insists I complete my university education and secure a job before considering marriage. According to my mother, he expects me to give him my entire salary if I ever start working. The confusing part is that he refuses every job opportunity I get, including part-time work and paid internships. Recently, some brothers have reached out to me regarding marriage proposals done in a halal manner. One was unfamiliar with the concept of electronic khalwa, so I explained it and emphasized the importance of involving a wali from both sides, which he accepted. Another brother initially offered advice and later expressed interest in proceeding within Islamic guidelines; he also arranged for a wali from his side. The main challenge is that my father and uncles cannot serve as my wali because they would oppose any proposal regardless. This raises concerns about how to trust these brothers I have met online, especially since they come from different backgrounds and live far away. It feels risky. Moreover, my father continuously rejects potential suitors and implies that he would only approve if I provide him with money, which is disheartening. I am uncertain about how to fulfill the wali requirement when my family is blocking the path, and I struggle to discern whether these online brothers are sincere and committed to a halal relationship or not. Has anyone experienced a similar situation? How did you navigate the wali requirement when your family was hesitant or opposed? Also, how can one verify the sincerity and halal intentions of a potential spouse met online? Jazakum Allahu Khairan for any advice or support.