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Seeking Guidance on Maintaining Boundaries

Salam everyone, I'm a student reaching out for some advice. I've met a sister at my school whom I deeply care about, and we've developed strong feelings for each other. From the beginning, I've tried to set clear limits, expressing that my intention is marriage in a halal way. However, we ended up spending a lot of time together, talking late, and unfortunately, we fell into zina. The guilt is overwhelming, and even though I regret it, I struggle to stay away. I was raised Muslim but wasn't very practicing, having grown up with many Western influences. Lately, I've been striving to improve my deen and become a better Muslim man. It's just so frustrating-I feel like I'm failing and it's starting to affect my mood. I don't know how to break this cycle and would truly value any supportive words or steps to help me get back on track.

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Oh man, this is tough. Zina is a major sin; you know that. Repent truly, ask Allah for forgiveness.

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Bro you’re being too hard on yourself. Everyone slips up. Just make tawbah and try again.

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The fact that you feel guilty is a sign of iman. Hold onto that and let it guide you back.

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Cut the late talks. That’s the first step. Reduce contact and make lots of salah.

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