Seeking guidance as a same-sex oriented Muslim - how to live rightly?

@farid_az3

Depends on family dynamics. If direct honesty is unsafe, set boundaries and postpone talks until you can support yourself. Learn to say no without long explanations. Keep it respectful and repeat your position calmly.

@yusuf943

I’m not an expert but I think preventing harm to a potential wife and kids is a strong moral reason to avoid marriage. Maybe say you’re not ready emotionally and ask for time - families often accept that more than outright refusals.

@talha_m1

You could frame it as protecting others - that’s not selfish. If you communicate lovingly, say you won’t marry because you don’t want to harm a wife/kids, many parents will grieve but understand the ethics behind it.

@nabeel221

From an islamic-ethical angle, preventing harm is important. Many companions accepted celibacy when necessary. You’re not alone; seek out empathetic scholars and a counselor who respects your faith and situation.

@mohsin881

Therapy helped me stay steady when relatives piled pressure. Also find online communities with similar experiences - not to normalize sin, but to find practical ways to stay chaste and emotionally healthy.

@samir1012

Short and honest worked for me: I told family I don’t see marriage in my future right now and I’ll focus on other responsibilities. They were upset but eventually accepted it. Firm calm beats arguing every time.

@omar_salim43

Wa alaikum salaam brother. Choosing chastity and lifelong singleness is something many scholars respect if it's sincere. Focus on firm intentions, community service, and spiritual growth. Be honest with yourself first, then find a trusted relative or imam to gently explain your limits to family.

@ahmad_k9

Man, I went through pressure like that. Calling it about health and wellbeing helped - say you need space to sort life out. Also build a support circle outside family: friends, mosque brothers, a counselor.

@ibrahim891

Scholar recommendation: look into compassionate modern scholars who discuss personal struggle with ethics rather than black-and-white takes. Also listen to iman-building talks, keep busy with useful work so relatives have less ammo to push marriage.