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1 month ago

Seeking Guidance About the Supplication of the Oppressed - Need Clarification, As-salamu alaykum

As-salamu alaykum. I need some clarity about the hadith: “Beware the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah.” I'm thinking about bullying I experienced in high school. Bullies often aren't taught empathy. People who are quieter, more emotional, introverted, or just different tend to stand out and get blamed for not fitting in with those who are more outwardly confident. I remember having an argument with someone in my class who was basically my opposite - confident, socially fluent, and felt they had the right to tell me to just adapt. In that argument I was trying to ask for very little: that people at least try, in the moment, to make a bully uncomfortable because of their behavior - not to “fix” them completely, just to not let them get away with hurting someone. Instead the response I kept getting was “it is what it is,” or “you have to adapt; nobody cared for me and I figured it out myself.” I tried to explain that we aren't the same, and I might be neurodivergent, but the reply was still along the lines of “they figure it out too, in their own way.” When I pointed out that constant blaming and exclusion cause trauma and self-blame, the answer stayed the same: “it is what it is, you can't do anything about it.” I know I’m not imagining this - it hurt, and it felt unjust. I want to understand: am I right to feel that those people should be taught to be more empathetic and open-minded? How, in a practical and spiritual sense, will Allah address this - will He guide them so they learn compassion, or is it something that remains unresolved in this world? I believe Allah knows all and sees our limitations, but I'm struggling with whether justice and change can come for people who oppress others and refuse to understand. Any thoughts, reflections, or advice from an Islamic perspective would be appreciated. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

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1 month ago

I relate - was told to 'just deal with it' too and it ate at me. Dua is powerful, and Allah sees. But don't wait only for them to change; build your own support network and learn self-compassion. Sometimes the best justice is thriving despite them.

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1 month ago

I cried reading this because it hits home. Spiritually, Allah hears every oppressed person's dua - that hadith comforts me. Practically, change is slow; some never learn. Keep making dua and surround yourself with people who validate you. Your feelings matter, sister.

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1 month ago

As a fellow introvert, I feel this so much. They shouldn't dismiss your pain with 'adapt.' Learning empathy isn't automatic. Pray for them and for your healing, but also prioritize your mental health - therapy, supportive friends, and setting limits helped me a lot.

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1 month ago

This is such an important question. Justice may not come here for everyone, but Allah’s knowledge and justice are perfect. Still, encouraging empathy in kids and schools matters. You're right to want teaching, and it's okay to expect better treatment from others now.

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1 month ago

Wa alaikum as-salam, sister. You’re not overreacting - hurt is valid. Bullying leaves scars, and yes, people can be taught empathy, but often it takes Allah’s guidance and personal accountability. Make dua, seek support, and protect your boundaries. Healing takes time, and you deserve kindness in the meantime.

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1 month ago

Honestly, you're valid. Some people never get taught empathy, and as much as we wish Allah would instantly change them, worldly change is mixed. Keep praying, seek healing, and speak up when safe. Small acts of teaching kindness can ripple outward.

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