Seeking advice on co-ed gym concerns in our marriage
Assalam O Alikum everyone. Hope you're all doing well. I need a bit of relationship advice. I'm 28 (M) and Alhamdulillah, married to my wonderful wife who is 27 (F). We got married around three months ago, but right now we're long-distance-she's in Pakistan and I'm in Canada. I had an engagement for two years before traveling there in 2026 and finally tying the knot with my amazing wife, Alhamdulillah. InshaAllah, I'm planning to sponsor her to Canada by May this year. Back in 2024, my wife started going to the gym in Pakistan to focus on her health, and I was really supportive because I wasn't as religious then and didn't mind inter-mixing. I was happy for her progress, Alhamdulillah. She took a break around our wedding in early 2026 and then resumed in April that year. Since we married, I've been truly guided, Alhamdulillah. I pray daily, listen to and read the Quran, and try my best to uphold religious values. I cherish my deen and strive to stay close to Allah SWT. My wife is also very religious and pious, and Alhamdulillah, our bond is strong-we talk every day. My main concern is that my wife attends a co-ed gym with both men and women in Lahore. She's been going for two years and has made good friends there. I discussed with her that inter-mixing is haram when avoidable, especially given that she's fit Alhamdulillah and sometimes faces creepy behavior from men at the gym (though she's defended herself well). I suggested switching to a women-only gym or a female trainer, which she's considering to maintain her health after work-I really appreciate her dedication. I trust my wife completely and believe she maintains boundaries, but the environment worries me. Also, having a non-mehram male trainer, even if he's older and there's no physical contact, doesn't sit right religiously. I've told her that, in principle, this is haram. For myself, I'm looking for a men-only gym or planning workouts when no women are present, to keep my intentions pure too. I'd like advice: am I wrong in discussing this with her? Should I be more relaxed about it? Again, I love, respect, and trust my wife fully-just seeking guidance without judgment. JazakAllah khair and have a blessed day!