salam - need advice about my hijab choice
salam everyone, i'm going through something and could really use some advice. before starting uni i decided to try wearing the hijab for the next 4–5 years, but it’s only been about 2 months and now i’m feeling a lot of regret and confusion. i only wear it at uni - not for outings or work - and that’s left me feeling awkward. i miss how i felt without it; it felt less stressful. i can’t seem to get comfortable wearing it, and i avoid colourful or long ones because i feel like i’m hiding. i chose to wear it partly because my parents wanted me to, and they keep encouraging me, so i don’t really have anyone to talk to about this. they’re not super strict about how i wear it, so it feels more about their convenience and control than my conviction. my mum and sister wear it for different reasons and are at different stages in life, so their experience doesn’t exactly match mine. i’ve made friends who wear the hijab, and i worry how they’d react if i stopped. i was never really a hijabi before, so this is new for me. i do value modesty and i like being part of the Muslim community, but i also feel like i look good with my hair and that’s hard to let go of. since putting the scarf on, my iman has felt lower than before, and that frightens me. some people i know are strict about it, others don’t care, and some wear it sometimes and have photos without it online - that only adds to my confusion. i’m torn and don’t have anyone safe to talk to. i’m scared i’ll regret whatever choice i make. maybe i could start wearing it later, but then i worry about regretting wearing it now during uni if it ends up feeling forced. also i worry whether i’m getting any spiritual reward if my intention isn’t right - my clothes are modest but my hair shows and i don’t truly love wearing it, so my niyyah feels off. please give me practical advice or personal experiences. how do i figure out whether to keep wearing it now, take a break, or wait until i feel more certain? what helped you strengthen your intention or become comfortable with the hijab? jzk for any guidance.