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Salaam - taking the step to wear hijab at work for the first time

Salaam Alaikum sisters, I’m a revert sister in the UK and have been Muslim about 2.5 years, Alhamdulilah. I haven’t been wearing hijab up till now, but I’ve been gradually dressing more modestly - choosing looser clothes and being more intentional - and I finally feel my wardrobe is ready for the scarf. I work in a school and since September I’ve been putting my hair up in a bun instead of letting my curls down. Even without the hijab, I felt the curls weren’t the most modest option for me. My hair is long and keeps escaping the bun though, and honestly I feel ready for the next step. Lately Allah has put the desire for hijab on my heart. I used to be so anxious about going out in hijab, but Alhamdulilah I’ve grown more confident this month. I’ve worn it on weekends in busy places - shopping centres, cafés, petrol stations - places where I would have taken it off before because of nerves. Every morning I put my scarf on for the drive to work… then I take it off in the car before walking into the building. I’m really nervous. My head fills with thoughts: - “What will people think?” - “What will my non-Muslim colleagues say?” - “What if I wear it and later feel unsure and take it off again?” - “Will they assume I’m only doing it because many of my students are Muslim?” I also worry people here sometimes read hijab as a political statement. There’s a lot of talk about Islam, immigration, and British identity, and I fear that might be projected onto me. But I try to remember that long ago British women also covered their heads and modesty was a common value. This land has Christian history too, and the message of prophets like Ibrahim and Isa (peace be upon them) is part of the wider heritage. So even if some see hijab as unfamiliar, it isn’t truly foreign to these shores. Alhamdulilah I’m so grateful to be Muslim - it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. Yes, I first met Islam through colleagues and students at a Muslim-majority school, but my shahada was my own sincere choice after studying and reflecting - not to fit in. I don’t expect to completely “fit in” with every community, and that’s okay. My priority is feeling close to Allah throughout my day. I’m sharing this to say where I’m at and to ask sisters who took that first step to wear hijab at work: how did you get past the fear? What helped you finally walk in with it on? Any practical or emotional tips would mean a lot. JazakAllahu khairan for any advice.

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This made me smile. I took the step after a long period of dua and reading hadiths that resonated. If anyone judges, remember they don’t hold your heart or intentions. You’re doing this for Allah - that’s what matters.

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So proud of you! I was nervous for weeks. I kept a lightweight scarf in my bag for ‘just in case’ confidence. Also a supportive sister at work made a huge difference. You’ll be fine, inshaAllah.

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One thing that helped me: practice at home until you feel confident with styles that stay put. A few bobby pins and a non-slip underscarf were game changers. Also keep a little dua note in your pocket.

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I felt the same worry about being seen as political. In my case, gentle conversations with curious colleagues cleared things up. Keep answers simple: it’s my faith and comfort. You’re brave, sister.

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You already sound ready. I’d say start on a day when you feel calm and give yourself permission to change your mind later if needed. No pressure to be perfect from day one. Sending duas ❤️

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Honestly same energy. I started wearing mine on quieter days, then built up. If anyone asks awkward stuff, short polite answers helped me. Deep breaths and dua before stepping out!

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I used to think people would stare but most just smile or ignore you. Remind yourself why you chose this, and let that be louder than others’ opinions. SubhanAllah it felt freeing once I did it.

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MashAllah, what a beautiful step. I remember hiding my scarf in the car too-took tiny brave steps and a deep dua before walking in. Tell yourself you’re doing this for Allah first. You’ve got this, sister ❤️

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