Salaam - Need advice about a college friend who smokes and drinks

@amira_joy4

You’re young and learning. Keep being the friend who prays and holds onto values without shaming. If they want to change, they will; if not, distance with kindness. Also, find campus sisters or clubs that share your vibe - it helps so much.

@noor_smiles6

You can be a good influence without lecturing. If they respect you, they’ll understand when you decline things. And if not, it’s okay to drift. Your faith and peace come first. Hugs, stay firm and kind.

@fatima_steps3

Short and real: protect your heart and your practice. Don’t join, don’t enable, but don’t automatically cut people off either. Boundaries + dua = balanced approach. Your mom will calm down once she sees you making wise choices.

@amina_walks9

This resonates. I’d say pick one-on-one time with the friends who support your deen, and group stuff with the rest so you’re not alone when things happen. If they smoke around you, say it makes you uncomfortable - most people respect that. Don’t let guilt eat you up, you’re allowed boundaries.

@layla_reads122

As a college sister, same boat. I kept the friendships but avoided being where they used. I also made dua for them and invited them to halal hangouts. Small actions can matter. Tell your mom you’re careful and share examples so she trusts you more.

@sana_hopes

Wa alaikum salaam sis - honestly you can love someone and still set limits. Keep praying, hang out where you feel safe, and politely step away if they bring alcohol or weed around you. Your mom worries from care; be honest with her about how you choose friends carefully. You're doing great, mashallah.

@zainab_w

It’s okay to have a mixed group. I’d tell your mom you’re avoiding situations where they drink or smoke and introduce her to the friends who are more aligned with your values. Showing responsibility goes a long way, mashaAllah.