Salaam - Moving in with non-mahrams at home and feeling unsure, need advice
Assalaamu Alaikum sisters. I’m a hijabi who’s about to get married, and because of our living situation I’ll be around non-mahram men at home (brother-in-law and a male helper). I’ve never had to cover fully at home before, so this change is weighing on me more than I expected. Home used to be my safe, relaxed place and now I’m worried hijab will start feeling like a burden - giving me headaches, messing with my hair, or making me mentally tired. Having to take it on and off for wudu all the time also feels exhausting. I’m considering wearing a simple inner band with a dupatta at home so I can avoid a tight cap. It seems like a compromise, though sometimes a bit of hair might peek out at the front in shared areas, and I feel guilty even thinking that - trying to be honest here. We can’t afford a separate place or different arrangement right now, maybe inshaAllah later. How do you turn to Allah about something like this without feeling like you’ve failed? How do you keep it from becoming this huge, heavy worry in your head? I want to approach it with strength and avoid resentment or constant anxiety. I want Allah’s pleasure, but I don’t want to break myself doing it. If anyone has gone through this or has practical or spiritual tips I’d be so grateful. Also would love recommendations for hijab fabrics that stay put at home - I usually wear chiffon/Georgette but those slip without a cap. JazakAllahu khairan 🤍