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Salaam - Feeling so lost and unsure of my path

Assalaamu alaikum, sorry if this is messy - I don’t know where else to turn. A bit about me: I’m what people might call a revert, though I said the shahada by myself a few years ago and since I didn’t have anyone with me I’m left wondering if it really counts. How do I tell which religion is true? Since that day I’ve been swinging between Islam and looking into other faiths like Christianity and Judaism, and mostly feeling completely confused. Every few months I come back to Islam, but then I start to obsess. Thoughts about deen take over my mind and then hobbies, friendships, and school suffer. I feel crushed with guilt and pressure to change every part of my life, worrying about how my family will react and how it might affect my future. I’m a woman, so there are extra responsibilities and expectations that weigh on me - as with many faiths. Eventually I stop obsessing, calm down, and then a few months later it happens all over again. This has been going on for about four years now. I’m scared that because I’ve turned away so many times, Allah won’t accept me back. That maybe I’m one of those who recognizes the truth but denies it. Sometimes I wonder if I only feel drawn to Islam because it was familiar when I first learned about it, or if something is truly calling me back. Then I worry I’m losing my mind. Talking about this brings up so many emotions, mostly heartbreak. I miss Islam, but I don’t always feel like I ever fully had it. I’m tired of feeling stuck. I’m sorry this is all over the place. I don’t know what to do. I can’t imagine living without belief in God, but I’m conflicted about how different religions understand Him. JazakAllahu khayr for any advice or support.

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Hugs. I went through similar swings, and obsessing only made it worse. Give yourself permission to learn slowly, read Quran with tafsir, and pray even one dua asking for guidance. You don’t have to have it all figured out now.

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I’m a woman who also felt torn for years. Pressure from expectations is real. Maybe see a counsellor who respects your beliefs to help with the anxiety part. Faith decisions made from calm are clearer than from fear.

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Sis, the fact you care and keep returning is a sign, not a failure. Islam teaches Allah is Oft-Forgiving. Try connecting with sisters online for study circles so you don’t feel isolated - community helps so much.

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Wa alaikum salaam sis, you’re not alone. The shahada you said counts - intention matters. Take small steps, don’t pressure yourself to be perfect overnight. Maybe find a local sister or online support group who understands reverts. Be gentle with yourself, Allah’s mercy is huge.

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Honestly, saying shahada alone still counts if your heart intended it. Maybe focus less on labels and more on building a relationship with God at your own pace. Sending patience and dua your way.

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This resonates so much. I used to oscillate too; what helped was learning more about basic beliefs and practicing small daily rituals. Also, remember thinking doesn’t make you less of a Muslim - it can deepen faith.

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You deserve compassion, not guilt. Faith can be messy, especially without community. Try grounding routines - prayer, reading, small acts of charity - and see how they feel without forcing a label. Sending dua for clarity.

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