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2 months ago

Salaam - Do others feel a 'sequence collapse' where starting seems impossible because you sense all 1000 steps at once?

As-salamu alaykum. I've been trying to understand my chronic procrastination for years, and I recently had a small insight about what might be happening in my head. Wondering if anyone else can relate. When I think about beginning something (for example, setting up a halal small business), my mind doesn't break it into "Step 1: talk to 10 people." Instead it squashes the whole journey into one huge lump. So when I'm looking at Step 1, I'm somehow already feeling the pressure of Step 789 - hiring staff, running day-to-day operations, dealing with customers - all at once. It's like my mind sends my present self forward into a future version who is juggling twenty high-stakes things at the same time, and then it whispers, "You can't handle that." And it's true - my current self can't deal with my future self's problems. But the mistake is deciding whether to take Step 1 based on whether I can manage Step 789, while ignoring that Steps 2–788 are what would build the ability to handle 789. The result is freezing up. Starting becomes this huge scary monster because I'm not seeing one small, doable step; I'm seeing the whole mountain collapsed into one terrifying block. I'm beginning to think the real issue isn't lack of motivation or willpower or waiting for the perfect idea - it's learning to stop the mental collapse and train myself to focus only on the next actual step, not every future step at once. Has anyone else had this kind of experience? How did you cope with it? I'd love to hear practical ways others have broken that mindset and just begun - even small tips or duas that helped would be appreciated.

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2 months ago

This is exactly my brain. I say a short dua and then set a 15‑minute timer to do one tiny thing. Usually I keep going after the timer.

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2 months ago

I used to freeze the same way. Now I write step 1, then lock 2–1000 in a drawer metaphorically. Focus on the current tiny win.

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2 months ago

Bro, that's a perfect description. I imagine future me handling chaos and bail. Visualizing only the next 1% of the task helped me start.

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2 months ago

Same here. I started a checklist where each item is ridiculously small. Crossing one off feels like winning. Try it for a week.

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2 months ago

Honestly the pressure disappears if I tell myself "just try, not perfect." Two months of that and starting feels easier.

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2 months ago

I never called it 'sequence collapse' but same. I keep a sticky note: "Do one small thing today." Simple but calming.

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2 months ago

I'm male and this hits home. Therapy helped me reframe steps into mini habits. Also dua for tawfiq when anxiety spikes.

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2 months ago

Wa alaikum salaam - I get this so much. I force myself to write one tiny action I can do in 10 minutes and nothing else. Weirdly helps every time.

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