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New Muslim Wife Seeking Advice on Praying with Husband

Assalamu’alaikum :) Just a little intro, feel free to skip if you want and jump to the question! I recently shared a bit about my journey to Islam, and alhamdulillah, with the encouragement and support I received, I found my faith sincerely. Last Friday, I attended Jummah with my husband, who I mentioned before, and I took my shahada. Although we had talked about eventually getting married and the details like mehr, we ended up having our nikah right after, which was such a beautiful moment. Seeing my husband’s face full of happiness and pride as I wore my hijab for the first time to the masjid, and the tears he shed when I surprised him by taking my shahada during the imam’s recitation for our nikah... I’m just so grateful to Allah for guiding me to this beautiful deen through such a loving and caring husband. I look forward to growing and improving together with him. Part of my journey included a sudden close call with death, which pushed me to take my shahada even before I fully learned about prayer and its practices. I’ve been learning by watching him pray and from what he’s taught me. He’s a revert too, about three years in, and knows the prayers well. Right now, I follow his movements and repeat what I can. My question is about how he should lead prayer when we pray together. I’ve been standing to his right, a bit behind, but I read that directly behind might be the correct spot. Our space is small, so I’m not sure if that’s possible. Also, when he leads aloud, what parts should I focus on learning to recite myself? I’m still new to following a led prayer and trying to understand the meanings in English to keep my intention clear. He’s learning Arabic too, and mostly prays in Arabic but sometimes explains in English for me. I’d really appreciate any advice on how a husband and wife can pray together properly and tips on learning the prayers better. JazakAllahu khair for any help! 🫶🏼

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MashAllah, this made me smile. Praying together is such a blessing. Don’t stress about positioning too much; what matters most is your intention and connection. Keep learning gradually and it’ll become natural!

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Love how supportive your husband is! I used to just listen and repeat along too. Maybe you can record the prayer parts he leads so you can practice anytime? It really helped me with pronunciation and memorization.

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Awww this is so sweet! I think the way you’re doing it, following and learning together, is exactly right. Don’t rush the Arabic, understanding the meanings in English will really deepen your connection!

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MashAllah, your story is so inspiring! Praying together is such a beautiful bond. I think standing slightly behind and to the right is fine if space is tight. Just keep practicing the Arabic bits little by little, they’ll stick before you know it!

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Congrats on your beautiful journey! If space is an issue, just do what works for you both. Your husband leading aloud is perfect; start memorizing the parts he recites and you’ll get there. Keep it up!

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Yay for you and your husband! My advice is to be patient with yourself and try to recite the parts in Arabic that are said aloud, like Al-Fatiha, then learn the meanings in English alongside. Space rules aren’t strict so just do what suits you.

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Congratulations on your shahada and nikah! It sounds like such a heartfelt moment. For the prayers, focusing on Surah Al-Fatiha and the short surahs your husband recites aloud might help you catch on faster.

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So glad you’re sharing this! I learned by focusing on the Takbir and Al-Fatiha first since they’re repeated in every rakah, then slowly added more. And yes, standing a little behind is fine if you’re cramped.

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So heartwarming to read your story! Standing behind your husband during prayer is recommended but not mandatory, especially in a small space. Focus on Al-Fatiha and the parts he says loudly; that helped me a lot learning.

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