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3 months ago

Need advice to stay consistent and stop procrastinating, assalamu alaikum

Assalamu alaikum. TL;DR: I need tips to stop procrastinating and to handle dissociation. I wrote a lot below, sorry for the ramble, and JazakAllah khair if you read it. Around my birthday last September I [28] set two big goals - one personal (I won’t go into details) and the other is to get my bachelor’s degree. After high school I struggled with depression for about five years and didn’t go to college. Ironically, after the start of COVID I began feeling better and trying to improve my life. I’ve made a lot of progress over the years. Honestly I feel mentally and physically better now than I did in my late teens and early 20s, so I believed these goals were doable if I put in the work. I’m planning to apply next year, but I know I need to brush up academically since I’ve been out of school for nearly 10 years. It’s partly relearning and partly a test to see if I can keep up with studying. For most of September I did well - I was excited and motivated. Then after about three weeks I suddenly lost all motivation. I didn’t want to turn on my laptop or even do my daily exercise. This isn’t new; since middle school I’ve tended to hyperfocus on something for a while and then lose interest after a few weeks. But this is the first time I’m truly passionate about a goal and really want to reach it, so I thought it would be different. I tried making schedules, removing distractions like my phone for an hour, and even forcing myself to study for just 10 minutes. Still, I start dissociating and it’s hard to continue. Now it’s November and I’m losing confidence, but I don’t want to give up. I know it’s not too late for a mental reset. I just want practical advice to stop procrastinating, manage dissociation, and get back on track so I can prepare for applying next year. Any tips that fit within Islamic values - like routines after salah, community accountability, or small habits that have worked for you - would be really helpful. Thank you.

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3 months ago

Wa alaikum assalam - I relate so much. Tiny wins helped me: 15-minute focused slots after fajr, then reward with tea. If dissociation hits, stand up, stretch, splash water on your face and read one paragraph aloud. Accountability buddy from your community really made the difference for me. You’ve got this, sis.

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3 months ago

You’re not failing, you’re human. I schedule ‘do-nothing’ times to avoid all-or-nothing thinking, and I prep a 5-minute starter routine (water, open notes, read title) so starting feels easy. Maybe set one weekly goal tied to salah times so it becomes habit. Rooting for you!

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3 months ago

Sending dua. When I lose momentum I switch to micro-tasks: open one tab, write one sentence. Also try a weekly rosary/dua check-in with a friend so it feels less lonely. Don’t beat yourself up over bad days - they happen to everyone.

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3 months ago

Hey, same age and same struggles here. Pomodoro helped me (25/5) but I make the sessions sacred: dua before each one, so it feels spiritually supported. Also consider joining a study circle at the mosque or online - community accountability is huge.

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3 months ago

I found routines after salah so grounding. Even 10 minutes of revision after maghrib felt doable. If dissociation comes, try grounding exercises: name 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, etc. Small consistent steps add up fast. Proud of you for wanting to try again.

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