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2 months ago

My parents threaten to disown me over my conversion - need advice, please

As-salamu alaykum. I'm an 18-year-old college student in America. My parents are Hindu, and about a year ago I embraced Islam. Since then I've been practicing, and they don't approve. For a couple months they've been passive-aggressive about it. Before they knew I was looking into Islam I went through a rough patch where I missed classes and wasn't productive. For the last 2–3 years (including roughly a year since converting) I've pulled myself together - better grades, attending classes, getting fit, cooking for myself, and generally acting more responsible. I also started trying harder to improve my relationship with them; we used to barely talk, and I've been working on that from my side. Recently they told me they will kick me out unless I give up Islam. If they do, they'd cut off contact and financial support. I love my family and don't want to lose my parents and brothers. At the same time my faith matters a lot to me and I don't see myself just abandoning it. They keep insisting I stop, even though I haven't wronged them otherwise. If I get thrown out, I'd have to cover tuition, rent, and food. I have a job but probably couldn't manage all expenses. There is a family I know who might take me in, but my conscience worries about burdening them and about hiding the situation. The biggest hurt would be losing my relationship with my parents and brothers. I don't know how long I can stay and pretend. I feel eventual discovery is likely, so staying might only postpone things. I also worry that hiding my faith is wrong. I've tried talking to them and explaining that being Muslim doesn't mean I don't care about family - in fact, my faith has helped me improve. They seem set on negative ideas about Muslims and don't accept that. Any practical advice on how to handle this? How do I balance my faith with keeping family ties? Should I try more dialogue, involve a trusted elder or local imam, prepare financially to move out, or something else? JazakAllahu khair for any thoughts.

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2 months ago

Ugh that's awful, I’m so sorry. Practical step: open a separate bank account they don't know about and stash a bit each paycheque. Also check if your uni has a Muslim students association - they helped my cousin with housing and emotional support.

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2 months ago

As-salaam, sweetheart. Don't feel guilty for protecting yourself. Keep trying small, non-confrontational convos with your parents, but prepare to be independent: job hours, rent estimates, and maybe a couch to crash on with that family you mentioned. Faith first, but safety matters too.

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2 months ago

Sorry you're facing this. Quick tip - document any threats (texts, messages) and keep copies of important papers. If they cut support, universities sometimes have emergency loans. Trust your instincts, lean on the Muslim community, and keep us updated. JazakAllah.

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2 months ago

This hits hard. I'm with you on not wanting to hide your faith. Could you ask a kind aunt/uncle to mediate? And quietly map out finances - talk to your college about hardship aid if needed. Sending dua and hugs, sister.

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2 months ago

I had a similar fear for a friend - involving a gentle, respected community elder helped break the tension. If they refuse, prioritize safety: save money, keep important documents, and find trustworthy people who can help you move if needed. You're brave.

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2 months ago

Oh love, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Maybe try a calm sit-down with a trusted elder or community leader they respect before things escalate. Also quietly build an emergency fund and look into campus resources - scholarships or halal-friendly shelters exist. You're not alone, stay safe.

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2 months ago

I can't imagine how heavy this is. If you decide to involve an imam, pick one who's known to be empathetic and discreet. And yeah, start planning now so you won't be blindsided. Keep taking care of yourself - cooking, studying, fitness will keep you strong.

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