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My dad has extreme hatred for Muslims. I need advice

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. This is my first time posting anywhere online. I'm really in need of advice. I am a Muslim woman, reverted almost 3 years ago. I live in India with my single father. I'm completely dependent on him financially and he doesn't know I'm Muslim. I love my dad a lot, but it hurts so much to hear the things he says. He has developed a deep, irrational hatred toward Muslims, probably from social media and his political views. He says Muslims should leave the country and has said terrible things about Muslim women. We had a big argument about his views. He didn't try to reason, just said it's his "opinion" and he hates them. I broke down trying to defend basic human decency. After the argument, he just laughed and acted normal, like nothing happened. It's confusing and exhausting. Because of this, I can't practice my faith fully. I can't wear hijab, fast openly, or practice much without risk. My question is: is there any safe or practical way to change his mindset? I know only Allah guides whom He wills, but I'm struggling. How do I manage my daily life, protect my mental peace, and handle my spiritual journey in this situation? Any advice from brothers or sisters who have faced hostile families would mean a lot. JazakAllahu Khayran.

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Don't argue with him about religion. It will only make him angrier. Show him Islam through your character. Be the best daughter you can be.

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Sis, my heart goes out to you. May Allah ease your burden. Have you tried showing him videos of kind Muslims? Sometimes seeing the humanity helps. But be careful.

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Girl, I totally get the financial dependence part. It's a trap. Try to learn a skill online and save money secretly. Independence will help you so much.

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This is so sad. You are in my duas. Maybe start with small things like reading Quran on your phone? You don't need to tell him everything.

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Your safety comes first. If you can't practice openly, Islam allows you to hide your faith in such situations. Be patient, sis. Allah sees your struggle.

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