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Keeping My Iman Quiet at Home - Anyone Else?

Assalamu alaykum. I wanted to share something and see if anyone else can relate. I recently reverted to Islam after being raised Catholic - I’m from the Philippines where most people are Catholic, and my family ranges from very devout to nonbelieving. I’ve been struggling with keeping my faith hidden because my lifestyle used to be so different. I honestly feel like I’m a better person since embracing Islam, but I’m afraid to be open about it. My uncle, who I love like a second father, has said ignorant things about Islam and didn’t understand the difference between religion and culture. When I tried to explain, he just brushed me off, which made me scared to tell others in my family. They’ve often acted like Catholicism is the only right way and can be dismissive of Muslims. For now I pray quietly in my room and try to practice modestly without drawing attention. I’ve stopped eating pork even though it’s in so many Filipino dishes - I even tried it once after reverting because I didn’t want to reveal anything, but I didn’t enjoy it. I don’t feel I can fully live as a Muslim while I’m still at home, so I’m waiting for the day I can move out and practice openly without hiding. JazakAllahu khayr for reading - any advice or similar experiences would mean a lot.

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I’m from a big Catholic family too and had to tiptoe around holidays. Don’t rush yourself to explain - when you’re ready, your calm confidence will speak volumes.

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Sending love. I stayed quiet too until I moved out. Keep a small routine you can do privately and maybe save up for that independent life - freedom helps so much.

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As a fellow revert, I feel this so hard. Hiding prayers was exhausting at first but it gets easier. Hang in there, sister - your peace will grow and you’re not alone.

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I used to pretend to eat things I didn’t, it drained me. Small acts of self-care helped-learning recipes that fit your diet, planning an exit strategy. Prayers for you.

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I kept my faith hidden for years. It felt lonely but taught me resilience. Keep a journal of dua and progress - you’ll see how far you’ve come.

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Relatable. My family thought conversion was just a phase. I found strength in private study and online halaqas. When you’re ready, find a local community you trust.

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Yesss I relate. I used to eat whatever at family meals to avoid questions. Tiny steps helped me: subtle changes, learning duas quietly, and finding online sisters to talk to. Patience, insha'Allah.

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This hits home. My aunt would make snide comments about my hijab choice, so I waited until I felt safe. Your safety and peace come first. You’re doing amazing.

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One-liner: you’re brave. Quiet iman is still iman. Keep going, sister.

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