Is It Wrong to Struggle with Loving Your Mother?

Assalamu Alaikum, everyone. I want to share something personal and hope to find some understanding. I love my mother because she is my mother-she’s sacrificed a lot and works hard to provide for us. But when it comes to her personality, we just don’t get along. Sometimes I wonder, if she were my age and just someone I met at school, I probably wouldn’t try to be friends with her because I know we wouldn’t click. I grew up in a different culture than she did, which really shapes how we see things-what’s normal, polite, funny, or respectful. Honestly, my mother can be emotionally harsh, and she treats me much worse than my brothers. She yells, criticizes everything, and complains a lot. After 26 years, I’ve become a pretty broken person and have accepted that I might never meet the standards she has for me as her daughter. Also, I only have brothers-four of them-which feels like it makes things harder. In our Arab culture, mothers often spoil their sons and can be biased against their daughters. If you know about this, you understand what I mean. This is my reality, and I’m not looking to be convinced otherwise. My mother doesn’t share laughter with me, but as soon as any of my brothers walk in, she’s giggling like a young girl. It feels so defeating to realize we’ll probably never be close, even though she sometimes says she envies mothers who are close with their daughters. I’ve learned to keep my distance and stay quiet just to keep some peace. Growing up with emotional and physical difficulties from both parents has left me feeling stuck even now as an adult. I compare myself to others and feel ashamed because I know where it all comes from. I truly love my mother, but she embodies many things I struggle with in a person.