Is it wrong to remind family about avoiding haram food?

Assalamu alaikum everyone. Me, my husband, and my brother-in-law have been living together for three years-we're in a non-Muslim country, and his wife is from here. The other day, my brother-in-law was eating bread with pig emulsifier. My husband and I had told his wife before not to buy it since she handles her own groceries, but she still does. We've had issues before, so we mostly avoid each other. I thought he might not know, so I asked politely, 'Do you eat this bread? It has pig in it, and that's haram.' His response shocked me-he sounded ready to argue, saying, 'Yes, it's fine. You can't avoid these things here; everyone eats haram.' I replied, 'Not us. Since we live together, please be careful.' He said, 'No problem, you guys can move if you have an issue.' They also eat haram beef burgers and bring them home often, so I asked him not to. He shocked me more by claiming it's only makruh, not haram, and said, 'You Muslims only focus on haram, halal, and pardah' (I wear hijab, so he was trying to provoke me). I mentioned a Quran verse about haram meat and pig, saying it's clear, but he just said, 'Do your ibadah, tilawat, or good deeds, but don't teach me.' It made me so sad-my eyes filled with tears. I explained, 'I was just trying to inform you if you didn't know, but you're arguing. I'm worried about your akhirah; you're like a brother to me.' Throughout this, my husband was there, telling me to be quiet. He only said to his brother, 'You bring haram burgers home, so she has a problem.' I was shocked-why can't he stop his brother or say he's wrong? I went to my room crying. My husband came and said I was wrong and shouldn't act like God (nauzubillah), which hurt even more. Now he's ignoring me; it's not the first time. Whenever we have issues at home, he says to adjust, which I do, but then he stops talking to me for weeks and laughs with his brother and wife. Am I really wrong? I'm starting to question myself-did I do something bad? May Allah guide us all.