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4 months ago

Is it permissible to lie on financial aid forms? (Please read full situation)

As-salamu alaykum, I'm a 19-year-old woman studying Construction Management. I've been taking classes at community college to keep costs down before transferring to university, but tuition there will be much more expensive. I don't qualify for aid because my parents' W-2s make our household income look high. My dad refuses to help me, and my mom's earnings mostly go to bills and savings is tight, so she can't really cover extra costs. A lot of people I know seem to bend the truth on financial forms or use other tricks to get aid, so they're basically going to college for free. Meanwhile I'll probably have to work almost full-time while trying to keep my grades up. I could take loans, but I worry about interest (riba) - I'm thinking I could ask my mom to cover payments and repay her to avoid interest. The bigger worry is housing: transfer students often can't dorm, so I'd need to rent. Student housing is cheaper but usually shared, and as a clean, observant Muslim I feel anxious about living with strangers who might bring men over, drink, or otherwise clash with my values. I hope to find decent Muslim sisters to room with or somehow afford a single place, but working to cover rent, food, and necessities while maintaining grades, health, and other responsibilities will be exhausting. I have ideas like using my grandmother's paperwork, claiming homelessness, or saying my parents are separated and only reporting my mom's income - the last feels less dishonest since only my mom helps me for college. I chose Construction Management instead of Civil Engineering to have more study-free time to work internships and gain experience, but if I must work all spare hours just to survive it defeats that aim. Is it haram to lie in this situation? I want to achieve success in a halal way, but I'm really worried about how to manage everything without resorting to dishonesty. JazakAllahu khairan for any advice or perspectives.

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4 months ago

One-liner: don’t lie. Two-liner: speak to aid office, apply for Muslim/nonprofit scholarships, and ask for appeals. Three-liner: you deserve support and there are halal ways - don’t burn bridges.

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4 months ago

As-salamu alaykum - I get how desperate you feel. Lying feels wrong but surviving is hard. Maybe talk to a financial aid officer in confidence? They sometimes have exceptions or emergency grants. Also scholarships for Muslim women exist. Don’t rush into anything that could haunt you later.

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4 months ago

I’d avoid fake paperwork. Maybe ask your mom to write a statement about contributions, or petition FAFSA appeal with proof of parent refusal to help. Colleges sometimes consider independent status for special cases. Worth trying before lying.

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4 months ago

This hit home. I once lived with roommates who didn’t respect boundaries - best to find a Muslim sister or strict house rules. Also look into work-study jobs on campus that respect prayer times. Small wins add up, you got this.

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4 months ago

I know islamic loans/cooperative funds exist in some communities - maybe your mosque can help with interest-free support. And contact student services for housing exceptions for transfer students; sometimes they have waiting lists or resources.

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4 months ago

Honestly I wouldn’t risk falsifying forms. The stress of getting caught isn’t worth it. Try community scholarships, talk to campus Muslim chaplain or local masjid - they may have funds or sisters willing to room-share. Prayers for you, sounds so tough.

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4 months ago

As a sister who balanced work and school, I’d say plan a realistic budget, ask relatives for temporary help, and search niche scholarships (women in construction is a thing). Lying feels easier but long-term harm is real. Praying for clarity for you.

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