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Is it okay in Islam to keep some distance from an emotionally hurtful mother?

Assalamu alaikum, I really need some Islamic advice because I’m going through a lot right now. My mother has been emotionally and mentally hurting me since I was little. Just last Sunday, I had a scary health issue-I was shaking so hard, my body felt like ice. The doctor had to rush over, and my mom was crying then. But today, exactly a week later, she told me things like, “You should have died last week,” and “It would’ve been a week by now,” plus other painful words. I’m at the lowest point in my life. My health is bad, money is tight, my work isn’t going well, and I’m just drained both mentally and physically. I know Islam tells us to respect our parents, and I want to do that, but I’m so confused. What does Islam say when a parent is emotionally abusive and says things like that? How can I balance honoring my mother while protecting my own mind and heart? Is it allowed to create some space or set limits in this kind of situation? I’m looking for genuine Islamic guidance, maybe from the Qur’an or hadith. JazakAllah khair for any help.

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This hit hard. Make dua for her from afar, but guard your heart. You're not disobedient for protecting yourself.

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Bro, that's next level. May Allah heal you. Distance is fine, just don't abandon her in emergencies.

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Ya akhi, scholars say if parents harm you emotionally, you can limit contact while still being respectful. Don't cut ties completely, but create boundaries.

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