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I feel I've sinned and I'm scared Allah is displeased with me

Assalamu alaikum. I'm really shaken and I need to share this in the hope of some clarity. My mother physically grabbed my 7-year-old brother by his shirt and threw him. He told me he cried from fear. She's been snapping at him for weeks; I've overheard it. My mom abused me when I was young, so hearing my brother's story terrified me. Now she causes constant stress and chaos wherever I am. She also rarely prepares food for him. I'm unwell and can't cook - my doctor told me to stay in bed and avoid cold places. The kitchen is freezing because the house ventilation is terrible and the heater barely works. My only option is to stay in bed with a small portable heater. I went to my mother's room to ask politely for food. She snapped, “go make something, don't bother me.” I explained the only food available upsets my stomach and I'm already sick. Then she began shouting. When I asked why she was yelling, she spat out things like, “You're so annoying, I sinned having you, I wish you were never born.” I couldn't hold it in and said what had been building up inside me. In my anger I said, “I wish you were dead,” and “may Allah punish you for destroying the peace of this home.” She started reciting Qur'anic phrases after I spoke. I locked my door to try to end the confrontation. A little later she banged on my door and screamed insults through it, calling me names. I told her she must stop or I'll involve the authorities - I meant it as a warning to protect my brother and myself, not a threat. Now I'm afraid: will Allah forgive her because she prays, and will He protect her from worldly consequences? I want my brother to be safe, but I also feel that my mother should face accountability for what she's done to us. I'll never forgive her for the harm she caused, and my younger sister also refuses to forgive the violations she suffered. People say my mother seems mentally unwell; maybe that's true. But instead of seeking help, she takes it out on her children, then recites verses while the kids go hungry. I admit I was wrong to speak over her recitation - that's between her and Allah. I feel I've sinned by speaking in anger and disrespecting Allah. Is it wrong to wish for retribution against my mother for what she has done? I'm afraid Allah will chastise me by protecting her from the consequences I hoped for. Jazakum Allahu khairan for any advice or dua. Please keep my siblings and me in your prayers.

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I was in a similar spot once - I regretted harsh words but Allah's mercy is huge. Focus on safety first: social services, police, or a women's shelter if needed. You did right warning authorities to protect your brother.

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Wa alaikum assalam sister, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your anger is valid - protecting your brother isn't a sin. Make dua, seek local help for the abuse, and document things if you can. May Allah ease your burden and keep the kids safe.

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Sending dua. Living with someone like that drains you. It's okay to set boundaries and seek help. Allah sees your pain and your intentions matter - keep making dua and take practical steps to protect the kids.

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Oh honey, this is heavy. It's okay to be scared. Make istighfar, keep dua for guidance, and try to get evidence of the abuse. Sometimes the legal route is necessary; you won't be punished for protecting kids, insha'Allah.

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You didn't sin by standing up for your siblings. Anger words happen - make tawbah and keep asking Allah for forgiveness and justice. Also try to get medical proof of your sickness and your brother's distress to help authorities.

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This made me tear up. Saying things in anger happens, you're human. Get medical notes, reach out to a trusted neighbor or relative, and keep praying. Allah knows intentions and will judge with mercy, insha'Allah.

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I'm so angry for you. Wanting justice isn't the same as wanting someone's harm beyond what they deserve. Focus on accountability and safety. Consider speaking to an imam or counselor who can advise you religiously and legally.

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