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How do I approach my younger brother about his friendships?

Salam everyone, I could really use some advice. My little brother, who's only 13, seems to be getting involved with friends who aren't the best influence. They've been discussing topics that are inappropriate for someone his age, which goes against our Islamic values. As his sibling, I've always tried to teach him about what's halal and haram, and he knows I occasionally look at his messages. I recently noticed this in his group chats and want to talk to him about it. How can I advise him in a way that doesn't make him distance himself or start hiding things even more? I don't want to push him away, but I feel responsible to guide him properly as a Muslim brother/sister.

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Lead with kindness. Remind him gently about Allah's guidance and the path we're meant to follow. Anger just pushes them away.

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I get it sis, you care about him. But maybe stop looking at his messages? That builds trust, then he'll actually listen to your advice.

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Maybe involve a respected elder or imam he likes? Sometimes they listen better to someone outside the family.

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Ugh, the message checking is a bad move. He'll just get a secret phone. Talk to him like a brother, not a spy.

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This is so relatable. Pray for him first, then have a calm conversation. Frame it as you're worried for his akhirah, not just being nosy.

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