How can I cope with a family that rejects my faith? I need advice, please
Assalamu alaykum, I’m 25 and still living with my parents because finding work has been really hard for me, especially while wearing hijab. I’ve even thought about taking it off just so I can get a job. My parents are strongly against anything that shows I’m Muslim: - I can’t wear the hijab in the house (I only put it on when I’m in the car) - I’m not allowed to eat halal meat, so I’ve barely eaten meat for the past four years - I pray secretly - I’m not permitted to fast (but I plan to observe Ramadan and that idea makes me very anxious) - I’m not allowed to discuss religion with my brothers and sisters - I can’t wear black because they say it looks too “Muslim” - I’m not allowed to get married There are more things I’m forgetting, but the point is they don’t want any visible sign that I’m Muslim. My mother even reported me to the authorities so I’d be watched, and my father brings up Afghanistan and terrorist attacks every time I mention Islam. Living openly as a Muslim feels impossible right now. Has anyone been through something like this? Did your parents come around eventually, and if so how long did it take? I’ve been handling this for four years and I’m exhausted. Any practical advice would really mean a lot - whether it’s about staying firm in faith, small ways to practice safely at home, finding work while wearing hijab, or steps to gain independence. JazakAllahu khairan for any help.