Hajj dilemma - feeling pressured and overwhelmed

Assalamu alaykum, I'm in a really hard spot. I can't physically do Hajj this year - I have a medical condition that makes flying and being in big crowds dangerous for me - but my family is pressuring me to go against my consent. They've threatened to disown me and leave me without a home if I refuse, and they won't listen to any scholars or other advice. There is absolutely no safe alternative for me right now. I've read that you shouldn't go for Hajj if you're ill or unable, and I understand the rulings, but when your own family forces you, where do you turn? I feel abandoned by Allah sometimes because I don't see a way out and I'm terrified of being forced into something that will harm me and disrupt my school and work. I know some people speak of the blessings of dying on Hajj, but that idea is only making me more anxious, not comforted. This situation has shaken me so much that I've even stopped praying regularly - I used to pray five times a day and now I struggle. I'm exhausted, confused, and resentful. I don't want to disrespect my family, but I also don't want to risk my health or ruin my studies and job. If anyone has advice from an Islamic perspective about handling family pressure like this, especially when your health and obligations at home are at stake, I'd really appreciate hearing it. Jazakum Allah khair.