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Found Out My Brother Is Involved in a Major Sin While Studying Abroad – Need Help

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I’m dealing with a really difficult situation. My brother moved abroad for his studies, and I recently stumbled upon something that left me heartbroken. On social media, he was casually talking about being intimate outside of marriage, even though he later deleted those posts, some comments remained. He mentioned he’s trying to break this pattern but admitted he might slip again. I’m in complete shock and honestly still in denial-maybe he’s just seeking attention? We were raised in a practicing household, so I never imagined he’d fall into this so fast. I haven’t told our parents because I don’t think I can bring myself to, but I desperately want to guide him back. I feel like I’m losing the brother I knew. Any advice on how to approach this wisely and with compassion? Jazakum Allahu khayran.

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Ya akhi, don’t lose hope. Even the best sometimes slip. Be the brother who picks him up, not the one who judges. Make dua in tahajjud for him.

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Brother keep this between you and him for now. Share a hadith about haya, gently. Tell him you’re not there to shame him, just worried.

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Studying abroad is a major fitna wallah. Loneliness hits hard. Tell him you love him more than he loves that sin. Send him a voice note with some Quran.

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Don’t confront harshly or he might push you away. Send him reminders like ‘nobody’s perfect, but tawbah is always there.’ You’re a good brother for caring.

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Man this hurts to read. Same happened with my friend in Malaysia. Just message him ‘Allah sees you’-sometimes that’s enough to shake a person.

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