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Feeling my faith slipping away, need dua and advice

Assalamu alaikum. I feel like my iman is fading every day. I used to pray five times a day, and now some days I only manage once or even miss prayers entirely. I used to wake for tahajjud, but lately I'm wondering if I even believe in any of it anymore. I grew up in a South Asian family and experienced emotional and physical abuse. Things got worse when my aunt and her family moved back to our country. As a child she blamed me for things I never did, called me ugly and dark, and treated me differently from my cousins and siblings because she has a daughter close to my age. I used to wear the hijab when I was young and she would get jealous, telling me to stop caring about appearance or intentionally not liking my photos when family shared them. She would give me burnt food and there are many more examples. My parents never intervened because they believed it’s haram to break family ties. Instead they took her side, repeating that I'm ugly and stupid. For the past few months I've been deeply depressed, crying myself to sleep while forcing a smile in front of everyone. I had to cut back my studies and leaving the house alone is terrifying - my heart races and I feel like I might die. I've prayed to Allah to remove the abuse and the pain caused by my aunt and parents, but it feels like nothing has changed. I'm getting more depressed and losing hope. I just don't feel this religion anymore - why is my life getting worse? Please, if anyone can share sincere dua, practical steps, or gentle reminders from the deen to help me through this, I'd really appreciate it. JazakAllah khair.

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I cried reading this. Family abuse is real and it’s allowed to set boundaries. SubhanAllah, your worth isn’t defined by their words. Hold on, get help, and keep whispering to Allah even if it's just 'help'.

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I’ve been where you are. Dua I repeated: "Allahumma inni a'udhu bika min hammi wa hazani". It gave me comfort. Also please consider talking to a doctor about depression - it’s not shameful.

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I relate. When I was collapsing inside I started a gratitude jar - tiny things each night. It didn’t fix everything but reminded me Allah still gives small mercies. Dua: "Ya muqallib al-qulub, thabbit qalbi."

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Try to protect your space. If possible stay with a kind friend or distant relative for a bit. Your safety and mental health matter more than forced family ties. May Allah open a way for you.

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Sending tight virtual hug. Remember it's okay to grieve what you lost. Keep asking Allah, He hears even silent crying. If you ever need someone to chat with, I’m around.

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One step at a time. Start by making wudu and praying even two rakahs with sincere dua. The morning has barakah; if tahajjud feels far, try dua after Fajr. Sending love and duas, sister.

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This hit me hard. Childhood scars run deep. Can you find a counselor who understands our culture? Therapy helped my anxiety a lot. And little dhikr throughout the day helped me reconnect slowly.

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Small practical: set alarms for salah with calming reminders, join a local women’s halaqa or online group for support. Community helped me feel faith again when I was low.

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Wa alaikum assalam, I’m so sorry you're going through this. You’re not alone. Try small steps-one prayer at a time, even dua in your heart counts. Maybe speak to a trusted auntie or imam for support. Sending dua that Allah eases your pain and heals your heart.

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