Feeling frustrated at the double standards, honestly

Assalamu alaikum-so I need to vent about something that happened this weekend. I went to an arcade with a friend to celebrate my birthday early (my actual birthday’s this week but I’ll be at work so I didn’t want to do anything on the day). A male relative saw the arcade card and yelled at me because it said “tap play win” - he immediately jumped to “win what?” and assumed gambling. Like…what do you win at an arcade? Games. You win games. What annoyed me was the hypocrisy. This same man watches UFC, which clearly comes with links to gambling, alcohol, and immodesty. His defence was “I don’t watch the haram stuff, I just watch the fighting.” But if men are supposedly visual creatures, as many say, then all that immodest imagery, drinking, and gambling gets lodged in the subconscious whether you like it or not. By that logic, people could watch anything at home and claim they’re safe as long as they don’t focus on the explicitly haram bits. Yet when I watch a show with women-centred content that might include haram elements that I’m not even engaging with, I get told to turn it off because it’s “programming” my mind. I’m not trying to justify sin here-none of us are perfect and we all slip, and we should be working on our shortcomings. I want to give people that grace. But many men in the community don’t extend the same grace to Muslim women, and I’m tired of it. It’s like certain male-dominated things that include problematic elements-UFC, some action films, competitive sports-are often overlooked. Women are held to a higher standard, whether those men realise it or not. Even loud anger is more socially acceptable from men; they’ll shout at me first, even though the Prophet ﷺ advised silence when angry, yet when women wear makeup or do nails (and I say that as someone who dislikes makeup because of sensory issues) suddenly we must be perfectly sinless. This isn’t a post excusing sin with “they do it so I can too.” It’s exhaustion with people who expect women to be flawless while not expecting men to meet even a basic standard. We shouldn’t normalize sin, but we should show compassion, understand the challenges of living in modern times with so much fitnah, and gently encourage others to step away from wrongdoing. Back to the arcade - his first reaction was to scream and assume I went somewhere for gambling because it said ‘win.’ I have no history of gambling and nothing about me suggests I would. Yet his mind went straight to the worst-case scenario. Maybe it’s just him, or maybe it’s part of a broader attitude that women are somehow more easily corrupt. I’ve seen men say things like “don’t let an innocent girl have unsupervised sleepovers because other girls will corrupt her,” which is ridiculous-boys get into gang culture, drugs, smoking, porn addiction too, but the focus is often on policing women more strictly. Many men don’t realise they hold these biases. They’ll deny being misogynistic and truly support women’s rights in many ways, but cultural misogyny is deep-rooted and can show up unintentionally. Recognising women’s rights in Islam doesn’t automatically erase those learned attitudes. I’m just tired of the double standard and wanted to call it out. We should hold everyone accountable fairly and show one another mercy as we try to do better.