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Feeling alone in my faith journey within my family

Assalamu Alaikum dear brothers and sisters, I'm writing this with a mixture of sadness and hope. I'm a young Muslim woman going through a tough time of spiritual loneliness and isolation, and I really need some advice or just to hear that others have been through this. Here's my story: Alhamdulillah, I recently came back to Islam and started praying all my five daily prayers. But I'm the only one in my immediate family who practices. My parents and sister don't pray, and sadly, their daily talk is mostly about backbiting (ghibah), judging others, and saying negative things about people. It hurts me every single day. I feel like a stranger in my own home, unable to share my spiritual joys or struggles with them. A few weeks ago, I met a brother online who helped me see the beauty of Islam more clearly. We had deep, respectful conversations about our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) and our faith. He was the first person I could talk to about deen without being judged. We both had serious intentions for marriage, and he seemed to share my values like wanting to marry young and work hard. However, a few days ago, he went silent. He said he was sick and needed space. I tried messaging him but got no reply-it felt like he was ghosting me. So I prayed Istikhara and felt some peace, but my heart is still anxious because of the silence. To protect my mental health and stop the anxiety of waiting for a message, I made the hard decision to delete him completely. I want to rely only on Allah and stand on my own two feet. Now, I feel incredibly lonely. Seeing my family's behavior contrasts so sharply with the respectful connection I had, and it makes me wonder: "Why did Allah let me taste this beautiful companionship only to take it away?" I'm torn between: - Trusting that this silence is a test or a protection from Allah. - The fear that I might be stuck in this environment alone forever. - Wondering if I was right to cut off contact completely to save my peace. Has anyone here been the only practicing Muslim in their family? How do you deal with the loneliness and the pain of seeing your loved ones commit sins like backbiting and not praying? And for those who have had a similar situation with someone you grew attached to who suddenly stopped reaching out, how did you handle the waiting? Did cutting off all contact bring you peace? I'm looking for spiritual strength and advice, and I want to remind myself that Allah is enough for me. Any counsel or dua would mean the world to me. Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

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Salam. You did the right thing cutting him off. If he wanted to, he would. Focus on your relationship with Allah and He will bring the right person at the right time. May Allah ease your pain.

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Sis, you are not alone. Many of us have family that don't practice. I find comfort in Quran and making friends at the masjid. Maybe join a sisters' circle? And about the brother, trust Allah's plan. He protected you from something.

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SubhanAllah, your story sounds like mine. I was the only one practicing and I felt so lonely. Then I found a better man who never went silent. Don't settle. And your family maybe will change by your duaa. Stay strong.

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This brought tears to my eyes. I've been there, feeling so alone in my own home. But remember, Allah is with the patient. Try to be an example through your character, maybe they will change gradually. In sha Allah.

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Salam sister. I know it's hard but you did the right thing. Don't chase someone who doesn't communicate. Allah is enough. For your family, be patient and kind, maybe they will come around. Only Allah can guide. Hugs.

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Assalamu alaikum. MashaAllah for your strength. I also distanced from family due to backbiting. It's painful but necessary. Keep praying for them and for yourself. Allah will replace what you lost with something better. Ameen.

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Wa alaikum assalam, sister. I know exactly how you feel. I'm the only one in my family who prays and it's so hard. Keep your iman strong and make dua for them. Allah sees your struggle.

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