Dua, Tawakkul, and the Struggle with Uncertainty

As-salamu alaykum. I’ve been on my own Islamic journey, and lately my feed has been full of more deen-related stuff, especially on Instagram. There’s a position I’ve been asking Allah for awhile (please make dua that I get it 🥺), and it would truly change my life. Because of that I’ve been reading and engaging with posts about duas being answered, tawakkul, and strengthening my relationship with Allah and Islam in general. One thing I’ve noticed is that some Islamic content creators push the idea that accepting a dua means being almost “delusional” about it-acting as if it’s already happened, not thinking about it, not constantly begging Allah, and showing total detachment from the matter. I wanted to bring this up because isn’t it beloved to Allah when His servant cries out and begs Him, whether for worldly needs or spiritual ones? I don’t want to bash anyone or their knowledge. Allah knows how little I know, and I’m trying to learn more, so I’m asking from a place of curiosity rather than judgment. I do believe tawakkul is important, and alhamdulillah I trust Allah’s plan-who am I to oppose what my Lord has decreed? My struggle is: how do you practice real detachment from something that matters so much? I used to hold onto this dua with an unhealthy attachment, and I’ve worked on that. Now I make dua, take steps toward it, and believe that if it’s meant for me Allah will grant it, and if not He has something better. But how do you genuinely act like it’s already done? And isn’t it narrated that dua can change qadr? So how are we not supposed to beseech and cry to our Creator? Is it okay to feel uncertain sometimes because we’re human, or is uncertainty something shaytan plants in us? Again, I’m asking from curiosity, not criticism. I know there’s much I don’t know and I’m trying to learn, so please correct me if I’m mistaken and share any advice or sources that might help :))