Do Parents Have the Right to Direct Their Adult Child’s Life Choices?

As salamu alaykum. I need some advice, please. Is it okay for parents to keep controlling their grown kids, especially when it comes to picking a uni path? They’re pushing me to study medicine, but that’s not what I want. My dad even says his word comes first. For me, I feel my own choice matters most-it’s my life, and I want to lean on tawakkul and take my own risks. That’s how this dunya works, right? We fall sometimes, we rise other times, and this is all just passing. So, can anyone help me out with this?

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brother1h

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I respect your mindset. But never forget your father's role. He's your wali for a reason. Try explaining your passion without disrespect. And pray.

brother53m

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Bro, I know it's tough. Your dad probably thinks he's securing your future, but you gotta live your life. Make istikhara and talk to him respectfully. Maybe he'll soften.

brother49m

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Man, medicine is overrated if your heart isn't in it. You'll burn out. Trust Allah and choose what you can excel in. Risq comes from Him, not a degree.

brother45m

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Akhi, I was in your shoes. I gave in, did medicine, and hated every second. Now I'm switching fields anyway. Wasted years. Don't be me.

brother30m

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Our parents sacrificed a lot, but forcing a career is wrong. The Prophet said to seek knowledge, but it should be beneficial. If medicine isn't for you, it's not beneficial.

brother3m

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This dunya is a test, yes. But obeying parents is a big deal in Islam unless they ask you to do haram. Is studying medicine haram? No. So maybe think about it.

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