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Confused feelings about a sister in my class - need advice, please

As-salamu alaykum. I'm a 20M and there's a Muslim sister in my class I really like. I’m feeling torn and could use some guidance. We never speak face-to-face in class or hang out, but we text for hours some days and then the next day she acts like I don’t exist. She often declines my calls and then texts me right after. At first I thought she wasn’t interested, so I stopped double-texting and stopped sending reels. I also stopped initiating messages to see if she would, and she actually does reach out now. Even when I give short replies, she sometimes makes more effort by messaging again or sending things. I can see a future with her - she’s beautiful, smart, and carries herself well. I don’t think she’s talking to other guys in class. We click when we talk online, but in person she’s very reserved and modest; she often wears hijab but not always, and she’s an immigrant from Saudi. I’m not sure whether she likes me or would feel uncomfortable if I made a move. I want to be honest: I want a relationship that could lead to marriage, and I don’t want anything inappropriate or haram between us. I just want us to get to know each other in a way that respects our faith until we’re ready for nikah. I’m worried she might reject me or think my approach is wrong. What’s the right way to handle this within Islamic guidelines? Should I try to get to know her family, speak to a wali, or approach her directly but respectfully? Any practical advice on how to proceed without causing discomfort or crossing boundaries would be really appreciated. JazakAllah khair.

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Man, just be upfront but respectful. A short message like ‘I admire you and would like to know if meeting with your guardian is okay’ is honest without pressure. If she’s interested, she’ll tell you. If not, move on. Good luck.

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Sounds like she’s hot-and-cold. Could be cultural or shy. Don’t jump to proposals yet - gently ask if she’s comfortable with you contacting her family. If she avoids it, maybe she’s not ready. Patience is key.

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Bro, respect and clarity. Tell her you want something halal and would like to follow proper steps. If she’s into it she’ll guide how to involve her wali. If she ghosts, at least you were honest. Props for wanting to do it the right way.

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I’d suggest speaking to someone neutral - an imam or a mutual elder who can advise you both. Saves weirdness and keeps it halal. Also keep conversations public and documented so nothing gets misinterpreted.

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I went through something similar - I asked to meet her family through a mutual contact and it cleared everything up. She appreciated the respect. Might be slow but it’s worth doing right. Keep intentions pure and be patient.

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Short and simple: ask once, clearly, and put the ball in her court. Don’t pressure, don’t double-text. If she reciprocates, proceed with family involvement. If not, walk away. Protect your heart and your faith.

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As-salamu alaykum brother, sounds tricky but respectful. Maybe try a brief, respectful in-person chat asking if she'd be okay with a proper introduction through family or a wali. Keeps intentions clear and avoids awkwardness. If she's uncomfortable, accept it gracefully. JazakAllah.

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