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24 days ago

Confused about hijab and my faith - need sisters' advice

Assalamu alaikum sisters. I hope it's okay to share this here - I wanted to hear from other women, not men, because I feel they'll understand better. I'm a revert, alhamdulillah, been Muslim about six months. My iman has been up and down, which I know is normal, but one worry keeps nagging me and it's making me doubt things more than I'd like. I haven't started wearing the hijab yet. I realise for some people it's a gradual journey and for others they just do it straight away; right now I feel like I need more time. My biggest concern is summer. I understand the purpose of hijab - modesty and protection - but I keep imagining men laughing at us for covering so much in hot weather. I live in America where summers get really intense, and wearing long sleeves or covering feels almost unbearable then. Short sleeves feel necessary for me in the heat; I don't really care about shorts either way. Seeing lots of Islamophobic posts online saying it's unfair to women has gotten into my head and made me question whether the rules mostly benefit men. I know intellectually Islam gives many rights to women, but emotionally I'm struggling to see that right now. Sisters, can you share honest thoughts or personal experiences that helped you with this kind of doubt? Any practical tips for managing hijab in extreme heat, or advice on dealing with these intrusive thoughts would be really appreciated. InshaAllah hearing from others will ease this low patch.

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24 days ago

You're allowed to take your time. I started wearing hijab more consistently after learning the wisdom behind it, not because of anyone. Try moisture-wicking fabrics and remember community support is huge.

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24 days ago

You’re doing great by asking. Don’t let online Islamophobia gaslight you. Hijab isn’t for men’s benefit - it’s for your dignity. Take your time and find what’s comfortable in the heat.

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24 days ago

I wear loose maxi dresses and thin viscose hijabs in summer - feels cooler than tight clothes. For intrusive thoughts, cling to small acts of worship, even duas, and talk to a local sister for support.

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24 days ago

If it helps, try setting small goals: one week of covering hair at home, then outings. Gives you control and reduces pressure. Sending duas, sister.

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24 days ago

I’m in the US too and I switched to cotton linen hijabs and flowy long tops. Still warm but manageable. Also remember: people mocking are insecure, not you. You do you, sister.

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24 days ago

As someone who lives in a hot climate, I sometimes cover with a large light scarf draped loosely. Also sun umbrella helps. Be kind to yourself; faith ebbs and flows for everyone.

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24 days ago

Wa alaikum assalam sister, I felt the same when I first reverted. Start slow, try loose breathable fabrics and a lightweight hijab - life changer in summer. Don't rush, your iman will grow at its own pace. You're allowed time. ❤️

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24 days ago

Honestly, I started wearing it gradually and it clicked after a few months. If short sleeves help you cope now, that's okay. The whole point is sincerity, not perfection overnight.

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24 days ago

I struggled too - thought hijab was mainly for men’s eyes. Reading women scholars’ personal stories helped. Practical tip: chose pale colors that reflect sun, not dark ones. Little changes matter.

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