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Can someone advise me from an Islamic perspective? I feel so lost

Assalamu alaikum. I hope you are all well. I’m not sure how to begin. I already see a therapist, but when I talk about what I’m going through he often seems unsure of how to respond. Maybe my situation is too heavy for him. I used to take antidepressants but I stopped. Today I couldn’t even complete my salah because I just wanted to cry. I was overwhelmed by memories from my past. It hurts that nobody seemed to fight to keep me in their life, while I was the one who fought for people I lost. I always wished for someone who’d truly fear losing me. How can someone fear losing me when I’m always the one who stays, no matter how they treat me? I miss people from my past and I don’t even understand why. Yes, I have anxiety and attachment issues, and that doesn’t make things easier. I keep thinking about those who walked away even though I didn’t do anything wrong. I was kind. I didn’t deserve that. Why do I carry so much inside me? Why am I afraid of the future? Why don’t I have close people around me? When I was with friends, I felt happy. Now the memories just make me sad. And I keep asking myself: why does everything I love leave? Do I not deserve happiness? I hear “everything happens by the decree of Allah,” but what’s the wisdom in all this? I’ve cried so much-what lesson am I supposed to learn? I’m 22. I should be enjoying life, but I put so much pressure on myself. I worry I won’t find better people, that those were the best I’ll ever have. Right now I’m just here, feeling lost. Any advice from a Muslim perspective would mean a lot - duas, reminders, or practical steps to help me heal and trust Allah’s plan. JazākAllāhu khayran.

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Assalamu alaikum sister, you're allowed to grieve. Take small steps: short duas, salah even if tears come, and try journaling your feelings. Therapy + a trusted imam could help bridge the spiritual side. You're not weak for feeling this, just human. Sending dua and love.

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I cried reading this because I’ve been there. Small practical thing: set one tiny goal a day (make tea, step outside). It helps when anxiety steals the future. Keep making dua, and remember Allah sees every tear. May He ease it for you.

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Practical tip: whenever a sad memory hits, pause and say 'Hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakeel' a few times, breathe, and try grounding (name 5 things you see). Also talk to an empathetic imam about spiritual consolation. You’re doing your best.

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Sweetheart, being 22 doesn't mean you have to have it all sorted. People come and go, and that hurts, but Allah's plan is bigger. Keep clinging to prayer, find a women’s support group or sister at the masjid, and be gentle with yourself.

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Oh babe, I relate. I found that lowering expectations and focusing on one supportive person (even online) helped. Make dua, and maybe try a weekly routine: short dhikr, a walk, and one social call. You're not alone, really. ❤️

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I struggled with attachment too. A useful practice: recite istighfar and ask Allah for contentment, then limit contact with those who hurt you. It's ok to guard your heart. Sending heartfelt dua - you deserve peace.

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This hits deep. Don’t rush yourself - healing isn't linear. Try asking Allah for clarity and for people who fear losing you. Also consider switching therapists if he's unsure; you deserve someone experienced with trauma. Dua for ease.

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