Assalamualaikum - Need advice about marrying a revert, please :)
Assalamualaikum everyone, Hope you are all well. I met someone some time ago and things are becoming serious. I don’t have people around me who’ve gone through marrying a revert or someone from a different culture, and I’m actually doing both, so I’d like to ask for your advice please. I don’t like labelling him just as a “revert” or a “foreigner”; I see him as the person who is right for me. Still, those parts of his story are important and I want to honour them. On the cultural side, I actually feel quite aligned with his culture - I’ve been living in his country for years - so that part isn’t a problem. On the revert side, he studied religions for about two years, accepted Islam (took Shahadah) and has been practicing for around six months total; we’ve known each other for four of those months. There isn’t a strong Muslim community where we live, so he mainly learns from online lectures and attends the small local mosque for prayers. Alhamdulillah we are both Muslims, and I give him credit for actively searching for and finding Islam. We’ve talked about supporting each other’s growth and we communicate well, but I’d really appreciate practical advice on day-to-day things so I don’t accidentally mess this up. For example: - What kinds of actions or words might be triggering or insensitive for a new revert? - What simple things are most appreciated when helping someone strengthen their faith? - How do you balance encouraging practice without making someone feel pressured or judged? Any tips, personal experiences, or small dos and don’ts would mean a lot. Please keep us in your duaas - Jazakum Allah khayr.