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2 months ago

Assalamualaikum - I want to start wearing hijab but I feel stuck

Assalamualaikum. Alhamdulillah I’ve been getting closer to my deen and trying to do what a Muslim should, except I still haven’t started wearing the hijab. I already dress very modestly - nothing tight, no skin showing - so it feels like the next natural step would be to cover my hair. I have a lot of respect for sisters who wear the hijab and sometimes I even feel a bit envious when I see them. It’s strange but true. I’m part of my school’s Muslim student association but I often avoid events because I worry people will judge me as a ‘bad Muslim’ since I don’t wear hijab. I know in my heart that if Allah commands it then we should follow, and I try not to overthink it. Still, there are a few things holding me back and I’m struggling with them. 1) I’m extremely insecure. I’ve never really received compliments and that’s taken a toll on my self-esteem and mental health. My hair is the one thing I don’t feel insecure about, so covering it feels like it would remove the last bit of confidence I have left. 2) No one close to me wears the hijab. I don’t have family or friends who wear it, and I keep hoping someone I know will start so I can feel supported. I even asked my mom and tried to make a deal that if she started wearing it I would too. She always says “I wish” and then tells me it’s too late for her, which leaves me without that example or encouragement. 3) In my South Asian culture, women usually don’t wear a full hijab. They might loosely drape a scarf but often take it off for events or gatherings. When I visit my home country I do the same, and the thought of wearing a proper hijab consistently feels uncomfortable because it’s not how women around me behave. There’s also a fear that a fully covered look would be labeled ‘extreme’ by some people. 4) My father is Ismaili and doesn’t approve of the hijab. This is the hardest part for me because it feels out of my control. Even if I work on my inner strength, his disapproval feels like a wall I can’t get past. I make dua every day asking Allah to give me courage to wear the hijab, but I still wake up conflicted. I don’t have a clear answer for myself yet - this is mostly a vent. If anyone has gentle advice or personal experiences to share about taking that step while dealing with family and cultural pressures, I would really appreciate it. JazākAllāhu khayr.

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2 months ago

If hair gives you confidence, try hijabs that make you feel cute - different styles can actually boost confidence. And you don’t owe anyone perfection overnight. Baby steps <3

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2 months ago

I get the family pressure. My mum was against it at first but I gently explained my reasons and kept praying. She came around eventually. Maybe small talks and patience could help with your dad too.

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2 months ago

I started wearing it only for school at first, and kept my hair covered at home sometimes. It felt weird but after a month it was normal. Hang in there, you’ll find your pace.

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2 months ago

I felt judged too and hid at events for a while. Eventually I told myself wearing hijab is between me and Allah, not others. It freed me. Sending dua and hugs, you’ll figure it out ❤️

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2 months ago

Omg I relate to the cultural thing so much. Back home everyone just drapes a dupatta and it’s messy. I decided on my own terms and picked moments where I felt safest. Do what feels sincere to you.

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2 months ago

Honestly same boat a year ago. Took tiny steps - tried scarves at home, then short outings. It helped slowly build confidence. No one judged as much as I feared. Dua helped too. You're not alone, sister 💕

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