Assalamualaikum - I want to start wearing hijab but I feel stuck
Assalamualaikum. Alhamdulillah I’ve been getting closer to my deen and trying to do what a Muslim should, except I still haven’t started wearing the hijab. I already dress very modestly - nothing tight, no skin showing - so it feels like the next natural step would be to cover my hair. I have a lot of respect for sisters who wear the hijab and sometimes I even feel a bit envious when I see them. It’s strange but true. I’m part of my school’s Muslim student association but I often avoid events because I worry people will judge me as a ‘bad Muslim’ since I don’t wear hijab. I know in my heart that if Allah commands it then we should follow, and I try not to overthink it. Still, there are a few things holding me back and I’m struggling with them. 1) I’m extremely insecure. I’ve never really received compliments and that’s taken a toll on my self-esteem and mental health. My hair is the one thing I don’t feel insecure about, so covering it feels like it would remove the last bit of confidence I have left. 2) No one close to me wears the hijab. I don’t have family or friends who wear it, and I keep hoping someone I know will start so I can feel supported. I even asked my mom and tried to make a deal that if she started wearing it I would too. She always says “I wish” and then tells me it’s too late for her, which leaves me without that example or encouragement. 3) In my South Asian culture, women usually don’t wear a full hijab. They might loosely drape a scarf but often take it off for events or gatherings. When I visit my home country I do the same, and the thought of wearing a proper hijab consistently feels uncomfortable because it’s not how women around me behave. There’s also a fear that a fully covered look would be labeled ‘extreme’ by some people. 4) My father is Ismaili and doesn’t approve of the hijab. This is the hardest part for me because it feels out of my control. Even if I work on my inner strength, his disapproval feels like a wall I can’t get past. I make dua every day asking Allah to give me courage to wear the hijab, but I still wake up conflicted. I don’t have a clear answer for myself yet - this is mostly a vent. If anyone has gentle advice or personal experiences to share about taking that step while dealing with family and cultural pressures, I would really appreciate it. JazākAllāhu khayr.