Assalamu alaikum - tips for making friends at the masjid
assalamu alaikum everyone!! i reverted about 3 years ago, alhamdulillah. i do have muslim friends but we’re not super close, and last year i finally got a car so i can drive to the masjid during ramadan. this will be my first ramadan actually going to the masjid, and i’m a bit nervous about how to make friends there. i’m usually friendly and sociable but a lot of people at the masjid already know each other and come with their families, so i feel out of place. i remember going to jummah and then leaving because everyone would be socializing and i didn’t know anyone, so i’d just go home - that’s why sometimes i ended up praying at home on fridays instead. i really want friends i can go to the masjid with, grab coffee, and talk about the deen. there’s another complication: my family don’t know i reverted because it could risk me getting kicked out, and i’m not financially independent yet (especially with the way things are these days). has anyone managed to make friends at the masjid? how did you start conversations or build connections? also, i’m not wearing hijab right now because of my situation, but in sha Allah i hope to start soon, and i’m worried people might judge me (i had a bad experience with a friend in my uni prayer room and it still stings 😭🥲). i live in a western country. any practical tips - like how to approach people after salah, ways to get involved in community events, or gentle icebreakers - would mean a lot. jazakAllahu khairan for any advice!