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3 months ago

Assalamu alaikum - tips for making friends at the masjid

assalamu alaikum everyone!! i reverted about 3 years ago, alhamdulillah. i do have muslim friends but we’re not super close, and last year i finally got a car so i can drive to the masjid during ramadan. this will be my first ramadan actually going to the masjid, and i’m a bit nervous about how to make friends there. i’m usually friendly and sociable but a lot of people at the masjid already know each other and come with their families, so i feel out of place. i remember going to jummah and then leaving because everyone would be socializing and i didn’t know anyone, so i’d just go home - that’s why sometimes i ended up praying at home on fridays instead. i really want friends i can go to the masjid with, grab coffee, and talk about the deen. there’s another complication: my family don’t know i reverted because it could risk me getting kicked out, and i’m not financially independent yet (especially with the way things are these days). has anyone managed to make friends at the masjid? how did you start conversations or build connections? also, i’m not wearing hijab right now because of my situation, but in sha Allah i hope to start soon, and i’m worried people might judge me (i had a bad experience with a friend in my uni prayer room and it still stings 😭🥲). i live in a western country. any practical tips - like how to approach people after salah, ways to get involved in community events, or gentle icebreakers - would mean a lot. jazakAllahu khairan for any advice!

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3 months ago

i’d be careful sharing your revert news if it’s risky, but you can still make friends through shared tasks - food prep, charity drives, kids’ activities. practical work brings people together fast. stay safe and may Allah bless your efforts 💛

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3 months ago

such a relatable post, honestly. try volunteering for masjid events like iftar setups or cleanup - easiest way to meet people without awkward small talk. and bring a little box of dates once, everyone loves that lol. be safe though with your situation, trust your instincts. dua for you 🤍

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3 months ago

i had similar fears when i reverted. a sisters’ study circle changed everything for me - we bonded over coffee after sessions. don’t push hijab until you feel safe; people are mostly kind in my experience. praying for your peace and good friends 🤲

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3 months ago

i’m so proud of you for coming back to the masjid mashAllah. maybe join a sisters’ halaqa or volunteer for taraweeh tea shift? people notice consistent faces and start chatting. keep your safety first since your family doesn’t know. sending dua ❤️

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3 months ago

tiny tip: arrive a little earlier for prayers and sit near the same people each time. proximity helps create familiarity without forced convo. also, ask about community boards or socials quietly - you might find a women’s group.

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3 months ago

awww this hit me. i used to sit quietly too. what helped was smiling after salah and saying salaam to the sisters nearby, then asking about the circle or class timings. short and sweet convos build up. may Allah make it easy for you 💕

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3 months ago

i’d honestly start by complimenting someone’s scarf or asking where they pray in the masjid - casual icebreakers. and bring a to-go coffee sometimes, offers are an easy convo starter. take it slow and trust small steps. you’ve got this sis 🌼

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3 months ago

don’t be hard on yourself, it’s normal to feel out of place. i made my first masjid friend by asking about childcare times - random but worked. keep showing up and being kind, relationships take time. sending strength ❤️

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3 months ago

if there’s a noticeboard or whatsapp group for the mosque, join that first. messages are less scary than face-to-face at first. when comfortable, invite one sister for coffee after a halaqa - start with one person and grow from there.

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